You know, as much as I recognize that trans people get a lot of shit, nothing frustrate me more than when trans folk blame each other, or traps, crossdressers, femboys, and sissies for the shitty behaviors of ignorant and abusive cis people.
I’ve heard it all over the years, and sadly continue to hear it regularly: “But crossdressers give us trans folk a bad name!”, “Traps make us look like we’re sexual deviants!”, “non-binary people are just confused and broken”, and blah blah blah…
It’s bullshit and it’s scapegoating. For some, it’s just easier to just say “well I’m not like THOSE people”. It’s easier to side with the majority and hopefully gain enough favor to see that your own needs are eventually met. Just look at Cailtyn Jenner… she’s got selling-out down to a fucking art.
And none of this is new. Minority groups do it all the time. The gay & lesbian community often threw trans people and bisexual folk under the bus too as they worked to prove their legitimacy and validity to the heterosexual majority. Essentially, if you’re not gay or straight, man or woman, even the greater LGBTQ community tends to find you a threat to their own existence in the eyes of society. Therefore, you must be cast aside for “the greater good” of even your LGBT peers.
And to a point, I get it. We’re all trying to survive in a world that oftentimes irrationally hates and fears everything that isn’t white, cisgender, heterosexual, and male. But I’m not going to be the kind of person who undermines or denigrates other vulnerable groups by playing into the ignorance of the majority and pandering to oppressive systems or social mores. Personally, I find this inexcusable and have no intentions on scapegoating other queers, or kinky peeps, for my own sake, and I certainly have no intention on trying to live to the expectations of the cis or other binary trans folk in order to be accepted.
I’m a non-binary trans, queer as fuck, non-monogamous, exhibitionist slut with hairy tits and a girl cock who loves group sex, anal, pet play, masturbation, and cum eating. Get over it. I don’t give a fuck if you don’t like it.
And I DO NOT blame any other trans people, or femboys, sissies, crossdressers, or trap, for the threats, intimidation, or bullying I get. Nope, that’s shitty, ignorant cishets being shitty and ignorant.
Now, for those of you here to learn something, let’s go over some terms!
Trans: a broad term that generally describes somebody whose sense of personal identity and gender does not correspond with the gender that they were assigned at birth.
Non-binary: also sometimes interchanged with “genderqueer”, is an extremely broad term for people whose gender identities are not exclusively masculine or feminine, man or women. This can include having a mix of gender identities, moving between gender identities, having a gender identity that exists outside of the binary[some times known as being of a “third gender“], or having no gender identity at all.
Cisgender: somebody whose sense of personal identity and gender remains consistent with the binary gender that they were assigned at birth.
Crossdresser: a person who dresses in the clothing and accessories socially attributed to another sex.
Sissy: [aka. Sissification, feminization] a BDSM practice during which the gender of a submissive cis dude is switched, either willingly or by [consensual] force, to that of a woman. This typically involves various degrees of crossdressing where the sub is instructed to wear heels, or a corset, or a skirt/mini-shorts, make-up, women’s lingerie, or even full costumes like a sexy maid outfit.
Femboy: a boy whose mannerisms, behaviors, and attire blur, or outright challenge, the lines of social expectations for masculinity and femininity.
Trap: often considered a derogatory word when directed at trans folk because it assumes that all trans people have a penis and being a fem person with a penis is undesirable or somehow a threat to the masculinity of cis dudes. The word has since been reclaimed in many circles to describe predominantly cis men who occasionally crossdresses and convincingly pass as cis women. Likewise, there are also plenty of trans people who have reclaimed the word for themselves and proudly identify as traps.
If you’re looking for tips, pics, and a sense of community you may find that on the Reddit forums for /r/FemBoys or /r/Traps. Both are NSFW. There are also a LOT of Tumblr blogs floating around, as well as assorted forums, groups, and Facebook pages all with varying types of experiences and people. I highly recommend making some basic google searches and doing some general browsing to find the right fit for you.
As for pornography, if you liked the two pieces of trap and sissy sex art featured in the post, I highly recommend that you treat yourself to more from InCase. At the very least, check out his Art Blog and Reddit forum at /r/Incase. For some incredibly hot sex comics featuring traps, crossdressers, sissies, and futas, you should definitely give Talking Dirty, Spicing Things Up, My Debut, and Hella Trap a read.