A Case for Traps, Sissies, Femboys, and Crossdressers

You know, as much as I recognize that trans people get a lot of shit, nothing frustrate me more than when trans folk blame each other, or traps, crossdressers, femboys, and sissies for the shitty behaviors of ignorant and abusive cis people.

I’ve heard it all over the years, and sadly continue to hear it regularly: “But crossdressers give us trans folk a bad name!”, “Traps make us look like we’re sexual deviants!”, “non-binary people are just confused and broken”, and blah blah blah…

It’s bullshit and it’s scapegoating. For some, it’s just easier to just say “well I’m not like THOSE people”. It’s easier to side with the majority and hopefully gain enough favor to see that your own needs are eventually met. Just look at Cailtyn Jenner… she’s got selling-out down to a fucking art.

And none of this is new. Minority groups do it all the time. The gay & lesbian community often threw trans people and bisexual folk under the bus too as they worked to prove their legitimacy and validity to the heterosexual majority. Essentially, if you’re not gay or straight, man or woman, even the greater LGBTQ community tends to find you a threat to their own existence in the eyes of society.  Therefore, you must be cast aside for “the greater good” of even your LGBT peers.

And to a point, I get it. We’re all trying to survive in a world that oftentimes irrationally hates and fears everything that isn’t white, cisgender, heterosexual, and male. But I’m not going to be the kind of person who undermines or denigrates other vulnerable groups by playing into the ignorance of the majority and pandering to oppressive systems or social mores. Personally, I find this inexcusable and have no intentions on scapegoating other queers, or kinky peeps, for my own sake, and I certainly have no intention on trying to live to the expectations of the cis or other binary trans folk in order to be accepted.

I’m a non-binary trans, queer as fuck, non-monogamous, exhibitionist slut with hairy tits and a girl cock who loves group sex, anal, pet play, masturbation, and cum eating. Get over it. I don’t give a fuck if you don’t like it.

And I DO NOT blame any other trans people, or femboys, sissies, crossdressers, or trap, for the threats, intimidation, or bullying I get. Nope, that’s shitty, ignorant cishets being shitty and ignorant.

Now, for those of you here to learn something, let’s go over some terms!


Trans: a broad term that generally describes somebody whose sense of personal identity and gender does not correspond with the gender that they were assigned at birth.


Non-binary: also sometimes interchanged with “genderqueer”, is an extremely broad term for people whose gender identities are not exclusively masculine or feminine, man or women. This can include having a mix of gender identities, moving between gender identities, having a gender identity that exists outside of the binary[some times known as being of a “third gender“], or having no gender identity at all.


Cisgender: somebody whose sense of personal identity and gender remains consistent with the binary gender that they were assigned at birth.


Crossdresser: a person who dresses in the clothing and accessories socially attributed to another sex.


Sissy: [aka. Sissification, feminization] a BDSM practice during which the gender of a submissive cis dude is switched, either willingly or by [consensual] force, to that of a woman. This typically involves various degrees of crossdressing where the sub is instructed to wear heels, or a corset, or a skirt/mini-shorts, make-up, women’s lingerie, or even full costumes like a sexy maid outfit.


Femboy: a boy whose mannerisms, behaviors, and attire blur, or outright challenge, the lines of social expectations for masculinity and femininity.


Trap: often considered a derogatory word when directed at trans folk because it assumes that all trans people have a penis and being a fem person with a penis is undesirable or somehow a threat to the masculinity of cis dudes. The word has since been reclaimed in many circles to describe predominantly cis men who occasionally crossdresses and convincingly pass as cis women. Likewise, there are also plenty of trans people who have reclaimed the word for themselves and proudly identify as traps.


If you’re looking for tips, pics, and a sense of community you may find that on the Reddit forums for /r/FemBoys or /r/Traps. Both are NSFW. There are also a LOT of Tumblr blogs floating around, as well as assorted forums, groups, and Facebook pages all with varying types of experiences and people. I highly recommend making some basic google searches and doing some general browsing to find the right fit for you.

As for pornography, if you liked the two pieces of trap and sissy sex art featured in the post, I highly recommend that you treat yourself to more from InCase. At the very least, check out his Art Blog and Reddit forum at /r/Incase. For some incredibly hot sex comics featuring traps, crossdressers, sissies, and futas, you should definitely give Talking Dirty, Spicing Things Up, My Debut, and Hella Trap a read.

3 Replies to “A Case for Traps, Sissies, Femboys, and Crossdressers”

  1. is great information. I’ve been living in the state of fear most of my life because I like to dress up and nylons and pantyhose women’s underwear. And I’m very sexual I felt I was a sexual deviant this whole time not true. I am laying here being hoes a bra panties and I have pornos on the computer but I cannot get a hard-on but I’m horny as hell.

  2. Thanks for the article, there is a dating forum I’m in, and the trans youth in it have basically made saying trap/femboy a bannable offense considering they will just report you for trolling saying you are using the terms to try and get a rise out of them.

    The shit is SUPER frustrating because femboy and trap have always been innocent terms i’ve known people to use as positive self description, and now because some asshole called a trans person a trap, i’m a badguy and so is any other self proclaimed trap/femboy because we don’t want to let assholes ruin stuff that is just a matter of fucking semantics and context.

    Gives me a sigh of relief to read an article that explains the stupidity behind such logic.

    1. I’m sorry to hear that those dating forums are pretty aggressively anti-traps and femboys. That’s not cool. Policing, disrespecting, and oppressing the identities of others is what trans, queer, and enby folks are supposed to be fighting against, so… why are they treating crossdressers, traps, femboys, sissies, in those very same abusive ways? Targeting the WRONG folks here. You aren’t to blame for assholes and bigots appropriating your identity and using it as a re-purposed slur. Asshole bigots are to blame. And clearly, you’re not calling trans people traps. That’s how you are identifying yourself and that is completely valid.

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