Hey there! My name is Mx Nillin! I’m a non-binary, polyamorous, queer writer, speaker, and educator operating out of Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, Canada.
For most of my life I felt incredibly uncomfortable with myself on an intimate level and with others in any sort of emotional or romantic context. Deep down was this intense storm of sexual shame, stigma, and profoundly hurtful internalized queerphobia; all of which kept me in the closet until my late 20s. Throw in struggles with major depression, anxiety, and addictions and yeah, needless to say I was a fucking mess.
But after meeting my partner’s Falon and Kate, as well as reaching out to various queer communities across Southern Saskatchewan, I FINALLY came out to both myself and those I care about!
While my family was not very accepting, opting to instead disown me, I have since found an amazing chosen family of badass, loving queers who I couldn’t be happier to have in my life.
With such amazing supports I started this blog in late 2015 to authentically and enthusiastically explore myself as a sexual being for the first time ever. Over the past few years I’ve worked hard to create personal content that I also hope benefits other queer, trans, and/or polyamorous folks who visit the site.
People With me On My Journey
It’s not all about me! I’m fortunate to have a really amazing partners and friends who I write about often as well:
Falon: My awesome nesting partner who I’ve been married to since 2014! They are queer and non-binary and super fucking rad. They have been with me every step of the way through the most important years of my life and I wouldn’t be where I am today without all of their love and support.
Kate: She has been my best friend for several years and my partner for just over a year. Like Fal, she’s been an integral part of my life and has had my back through some of the biggest challenges I’ve ever faced. Kate’s somebody anyone would be lucky as fuck to have in their corner. My #1 hype person.
Toto: Fal’s longtime friend who I’ve become closer friends with too this past year! They’re one of the most positive, encouraging, and creative people I know. Sometimes we hang out semi-naked and take pictures of each other.
More Mx Nillin
Other than on my blog, I’ve also written for The Crash Pad Series, Molly’s Daily Kiss, and The Centre for Sexual Pleasure and Health. I also had an article of mine included in the BEDFELLOWS: Porn as Pedagogy Exhibit at the Tate Modern Museum of London in October 2016. Additionally, my work can be found featured in Elan Morgan’s Five Star Blog Round-Ups and eLust Sex Blogs.
Further, I made a guest appearance on The Dildorks podcast [hosted by Kate Sloan and Bex Caputo] to talk about my Mx Nillin Fucks series, was interviewed by Poly Role Models, and have actively participated in the Sex Educators Review Porn panel for Crash Pad Series since 2016.
For a introductory guide to the blog, including a list of most read posts and most active topic categories, check out the New Here? page.
If you like what you read here, please consider following me on Twitter as well.
Finally if you’d like to reach me, you can do so via one of the means listed on my Contact page.