Never Run a Sex Blog on WordPress: Why Mx Nillin is Starting Over

If you’ve been following the blog for a while, you’ll likely notice that not only does it suddenly look completely different…. but it’s also at a new URL and many past posts are gone. Yesterday, while working at www.mxnillin.wordpress.com, I posted a brand new article and was getting ahead on another when I found myself receiving an error message that said I didn’t have any posting or admin permission. Clicking back on my dashboard, there it was… the message in red.

WordPress had suspended me, permanently, for breach of their Terms of Service. More specifically, their Mature Content Policy and their User Guidelines that states the blogging platform does NOT allow posts with:

  • visual depictions of sexually explicit acts (such as, but not limited to, images, videos, and drawings) that can be considered pornographic
  • links or ads to adult-oriented affiliate networks, such as pornography site signups
  • links, text, or images promoting or advertising escort or erotic services

Opps. My bad. You know how most of us have this tendency to not read those really long, boring, “terms of use” things, written in all kinds of legal jargon, while signing up to stuff? Well, I clearly didn’t read it here either as I had assumed that WordPress allowed you to blog about pretty much anything, so long as it was legal. Turns out that’s not the case. Being new to the whole sex blogging thing, I hadn’t yet learned, or even thought of, the lessons that other sex bloggers had already learned before me regarding how sexphobic most “free blogging” platforms are. It’s not just WordPress, it’s most of them.

Now I know. Shame on me for not reading the Terms of Use (made sure to read them really closely for this new hosting service), and shame on WordPress for their shitty, sexphobic, anti-porn, and anti-sex work policies.

Now www.mxnillin.wordpress.com is gone… forever.

I’ve already run the gamut of emotions. At first I panicked.

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Then I was furious.

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Then I was devastated.

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Now, I’m mostly over it and ready to start over because, well, I refuse to let this ruin all the good that the blog was doing for others and for myself.

Moving on now!

Starting next week on November 28, 2016, there will be updates EVERY Monday and Thursday at www.mxnillin.com. Monday posts will be brand new content, never before published, while Thursdays will be re-posts from the previous WordPress blog that I managed to salvage! So if you loved the Ethical Exhibitionism posts, or the masturbation month articles, or the queer sex advice pieces please rest assured that they WILL be back, uploaded fresh, right here at my new blogging home.

If you head over to the blog section of this new site you’ll also find a few of the old articles in tact, already posted under their original publication dates. Among these are the Monthly Refaps, the recent Trans Day of Remembrance call to action piece, last month’s National Coming Out Day post, and a couple of posts on my current favorite sex comics.

But, this is still more or less me starting all over again. Thank you for all of the support and encouragement that so many of you have already given over the past 9-months. I hope that you’ll join me in this new venture. If you’re new to my blogging, then welcome! I hope you enjoy the content here, find what you need, and learn a lot about sexual pleasure, wellness, and positivity.

Mx Nillin

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Mx Nillin Made the Top 40 in Kinkly’s Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2016

The results for Kinkly’s Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2016 are in! How’d Mx Nillin do? Oh, I only picked up 6th place in the Top New Blogs of 2016 category, and came in at number 35 overall for my first year. In other words:

 

A HUGE congratulations to absolutely everybody who made 2016’s list; and a HUGE congrats to everybody who didn’t make the list too because you’re all still doing amazing, empowering, and important work! I’m looking forward to reading more from you all and perhaps even getting to work with some of you collaboratively. On that note: if you’re a sex blogger, worker, educator, etc. interested in working together on some sort of collaborative/co-author piece, please toss me an email at nillinnow@gmail.com.

And thank you to everybody who has been visiting, reading, following, and sharing the blog since I started it up earlier this year. It has been pretty awesome talking kinks, masturbation, porn, exhibitionism, group sex, and more, with you all. Be sure to keep checking back as I have a lot more content coming over the next few months!

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I’m an Intern with the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health!

Things are happening! Big things!

Several weeks ago I took a chance and applied to the distance internship program offered by The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health (CSPH).

I’d heard a lot about the organization through various sex workers, bloggers, and educators over the last couple of years and I was actually interested in the internship program this past spring…  but I wasn’t quite confident enough to apply for it at the time.

Having spent much of this summer exploring the radical queer porn content at Crash Pad Series, as well as participating in their Sex Ed Porn Reviews feature, and writing a guest post for their blog, I’ve been feeling super empowered and motivated to really broaden my knowledge of sexual education. Specifically, I have been very focused on topics surrounding sexual pleasure (which is super important to sexual health IMHO) and the lack of inclusive resources, guidance, or education for queer and trans individuals.

So, going with this newfound ambition I applied to the CSPH and I’m thrilled to announce that I’ve accepted an offer to begin interning with them starting at the end of this month! I’ve been placed with their editorial and education teams to produce website content, as well as help create lesson plans, webinars, and other educational development resources.

I’m incredibly excited to have been afforded this opportunity. I cannot wait to work with those involved at the CSPH, to help contribute to the incredible work that they already do, and to learn all that I can from their passionate staff, volunteers, and the community that they serve.

This experience will allow me to greatly expand my knowledge of sexuality and to develop the skills necessary for me to be able to provide sex education, resources, guidance and support to my hometown; as well as other rural communities all across Southern Saskatchewan.

Thank you to my partner Falon for all of the love and support, as well as to my friends and community for all of the encouragement that you’ve given me. I’d also like to thank Jiz Lee, as well as everybody at Crash Pad series, for and broadening my perspectives on sexuality. These next few months are going to be amazing!

You can keep up with the work I’ll be doing with the CSPH by following their social media on Facebook and @TheCSPH on Twitter. I’ll also be posting a lot of my own content here, as well as on my Twitter account @MxNillin.

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