5 Surprisingly Cool Benefits to Mutual Masturbation

Happy Mid-Masturbation month, y’all! I know I’m a little late to the party already but I’ve been busy looking after my mental health and, well, masturbating. Also, mapping out what to write about for the next couple of weeks.

Not only am I midway through eating my own cum every day this month (and tracking details on taste and texture), I’m also prepping a new Mx Nillin Fucks post and my partner is interviewing me about that feature! So, keep an eye out for those over the new couple of weeks.

What I’d like to chat about in this piece though is something that I feel is SORELY underappreciated by most. Not only is it something I rarely hear talked about among friends, or anybody discussing sexuality, but it’s something that is also just really fucking fun… to be honest. So what is the thing that I’m being unnecessarily obtuse about?

Why, it’s mutual masturbation, of course! What is mutual masturbation?

It’s the act of two or more people masturbating in the presence of one another. While purists may say that it has to be done in person, I say that’s a bunch of hooey because as far as I’m concerned mutual masturbation can absolutely be enjoyed long distance over the phone, messenger, voice chat, or any video chat services as well.

Also, contrary to popular misconception, mutual masturbation does not require you to be in a committed relationship in order to do it. No, no. Fuck that noise. You can mutually masturbate with all kinds of people, so long as everybody is comfortable and consenting. I’m talking your friend(s), roommate(s), coworker(s), classmate(s), or even a complete stranger on ChatRoulette. [Oh ChatRoulette…]

Anyway, here are five pretty cool benefits that I’ve discovered through my experiences masturbating with others:

 

It’s a Great Way to Share Your Own, and Learn About Other, Sexual Fantasies

Are you really into pet play? How about exhibitionism? Maybe you love fisting, or gangbangs, or eating ass. Have you ever wanted to dress-up like members of the Avengers with somebody and just fuck like animals because you’re about to got fight Ultron and you have no idea whether or not you’ll survive? Awesome, get some of your go to porn links together and save those to your favorites, if you haven’t already, because now would be a great time to break the ice on them.

Usually when I mutually masturbate with my partner we take turns picking out porn vids. Through this practice, I have learned a lot about their sexual fantasies and desires for really rough sex, humiliation play, and fisting, among others. Likewise, I have picked out videos that often feature exhibitionism, public sex, cum play, pet play, and, at times, some hentai or erotic furry art.

Treat it like a sort of show and tell for your kinks! You don’t even have to be in a committed relationship. If you’re masturbating with a friend this can still be a great practice in kink positivity wherein you both have the opportunity to share and talk about what excites you.

 

You Can Learn Self-Pleasure Techniques for Your Own Enjoyment That You Didn’t Know Before

Regardless of who you do it with, one of the best things about masturbating with somebody who has similar genitals as yourself is that you can learn exciting self-pleasure methods you may not have tried yourself yet! As somebody with a girl cock, I feel very fortunately to have had the opportunity to masturbate with a fair amount of people with a penis over the years. Be it a pacing thing, a creative way to use your free hand, or a specific stroking method I wasn’t familiar with, I’ve almost always managed to pick up something refreshing and fun from the ways that I’ve seen my friends and lovers jerk off.

And sure, you could learn something from just watching a solo jerk off scene too BUT, believe me when I say that masturbating with somebody who you feel comfortable with, who you can actually converse with, who you can ask questions, watch up close, be watched by, replicate the techniques of more accurately, etc. is an experience unlike any other.

My partner and I always argue over who gets to use the wand. It’s magical, y’all…

 

It Can Be a Huge Confidence Builder

When you are masturbating with a great friend, partner, or lover, don’t be stingy on the compliments! Nothing lifts confidence like some flattering remarks, so, if things seem a little on the quiet side then toss some out there to whoever you’re ‘bating with. Chances are that this will add to the overall excitement of things for both of you while simultaneously encouraging empowering remarks.

It’s not just about feeling good during sexual experiences. People tend to also want to feel attractive to whoever they are being sexual with, and like they are contributing to those exchanges in meaningful ways. So, get those balls rolling! Empower your jerk off buddy with some playful, sexy, accolades and encourage them to hand some your way too!

Overall, mutual masturbation has the potential to be a very uplifting exercise that leaves you, and your masturbating guest, feeling satisfied in more ways than one.

 

It’s a Great Way to Practice Dirty Talk

Whether you’re new to it, or a seasoned smut master with your words, mutual masturbation provides a unique opportunity to practice some dirty talk in a relatively chill environment. It actually took me quite awhile to get comfortable with dirty talking. I had never been very good at it and it just generally wasn’t something I was very confident with. While having sex, there were many instances where my partner would want some dirty talk while we were having rough sex but I just couldn’t find the words, for whatever reason.

During mutual masturbation, though, my partner slowly encouraged me to explore dirty talk through us watching BDSM scenes as we pleasured ourselves. Every so often they would lean a little closer and ask things like “wouldn’t you like to do that to me?”, “what else would you do?”, “what am I?”, etc. And, needless to say, once you start answer those questions… well, you’re on your way!

Watching porn with your jerk off buddy (or buddies) allows you the opportunity to really share and explore each other’s fantasies, kinks, and desires. Plus, it’s hot as fuck!

 

It’s a Great Way to Show Your Partner(s)/Lover(s) What You Like, And Learn What They Like Too

Mutually masturbating with somebody can provide the unique opportunity to literally give them a presentation on how you personally derive pleasure. Look at it as a prime time to really show your partner(s) or lover(s) what you like through highlighting the self-pleasure methods you use.

Is there a specific way that you like having your genitals stimulated? Cool, be sure to really highlight that as you play. Are there other areas on your body that REALLY up the pleasure you experience? Awesome, touch and/or caress those too. Personally, mutually masturbating has felt like one of the most natural times to convey how I like to be touched to my partner(s).

Likewise, there’s no better way to learn how you can more effectively get your partner(s) or lover(s) off than by watching them literally show you how they get themselves off. Pay attention and you’re sure to learn many fun tricks!

 

How about you folks? Have you mutually masturbated with anyone before? If so, what was your experience with it?

 

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Mx Nillin Fucks… A Peanut Butter & Jelly Sandwich

Welcome to the third installment of “Mx Nillin Fucks…”, a new blog post series in which I stick my girl cock inside a wide variety of inanimate objects, mostly foods so far, as masturbatory aids and then write about how that goes. I have no idea what is or isn’t going to make me orgasm, but I’m curious to find out and I hope that you are too!

So far I’ve walked in the path of Jason Biggs by having my way with some warm apple pie, then I went the complete opposite direction and got it on with a whole lot of jell-o [28 servings to be exact]. Both were… pretty awful. The pie was super fucking stressful with all of these hot pockets of molten apple goo to navigate even after you think you’ve left it to cool for long enough. And the Jell-O? Oh god… it’s like having sex with the cold corpse of Flubber. Do NOT recommend.

Regardless, though, as much as I’ve ranted about it please know that I am having fun with this new series and I’m pretty stoked about this installment’s item due to the potential for an actual orgasm happening.

At the end of THIS posts you’ll find another poll listing other items I’m curious about penetrating. The item that gets the most votes, by next Friday April 28, 2017, will be what I buy and fuck next!

But enough of all that, let’s get to why you’re here. After the last post was a poll for what y’all wanted me to fuck next, and the results have spoken:

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That’s right, I’mma fuck a PB&J sandwich.

 

How Much Does It Cost to Fuck It?

Do you have peanut butter in your cupboard, jam in your fridge, and some bread on your counter (or frozen in your freezer)? Yes? Awesome. Then this fucktoy has already been paid for. Booya!

If you don’t have all of these ingredients then it’s off to the store with you where, unsurprisingly, costs will vary tremendously depending on the grocery chain, product brand, your location, and potential sales or discounts going on.

I am confident in saying that you can likely do this for $10 or less though; which is great when you consider that you’ll get multiple uses out of all this, only having to replenish bread as you go through it/it expires.

So, yay!

Total cost: $10-ish (Canadian) for initial bread and condiments.

NOTE: make sure that you buy the smooth peanut butter, do NOT buy chunky. Jagged chunks of nuts + your tender shaft = bad news bears. Just don’t fucking do it.

 

How Much Prep Will This Take?

Have you ever made a peanut butter and jelly sandwich before? That much prep…

I gotta say though, This shit is an ART.

It’s all about balance. Having the right bread and the right ratio of peanut butter to jelly really will make all of the difference here in regards to everything from the overall enjoyment to clean-up afterward.

Go with the wrong kind of bread (ie; cheap no-name stuff) and that thing will be falling apart in your hands after just a couple of jerks. Have too much peanut butter on there and you’ll be tearing that bread up, PLUS struggling with clumps of the stuff stuck in your pubes. Have too much jelly and more will be oozing out onto the floor than serving as effective lubricant for your sandwich fucking session.

But with a little patience, and some trial and error, there is the potential here for some genuinely great ‘bating.

 

What Is It Like to Fuck?

Not that bad, actually! Like, no jokes, it felt pretty fucking great to be honest. There were legit several points I felt like I could cum from this and had I been 17 again I’d probably be splurting into this thing within moments.

I was surprised that the Wonder Bread held up pretty well. I started off thrusting into it slowly, taking my time to experiment with the best way to hold it and actually felt myself getting pretty close to an orgasm. Here’s the thing though: bread is like a sponge. It soaks up that jelly and no matter how slow you take it, eventually, it’s going to get soggy and break down.

Also, it looks fucking ridiculous. I mean, look:

That’s a dick in a sandwich… it’s just not sexy. Feels great! Looks silly as fuck… and yeah, that kinda kills the mood a bit so, I guess, don’t look at it and think of something that’s not a peanut butter and jelly sandwich?

A MUCH better alternative though is french bread.

Not only is there more bread to work with but it is much heartier, easier to hold, and feels closer to being like a masturbation sleeve than anything else I’ve fucked so far in this series.

Definitely keep a lot of extra jelly on hand to reapply for lube as needed though… because you WILL need it. This shit dries up fast.

The clean-up on this is a pain in the ass too. Not only was there leaked jelly all over the floor but even with careful consideration my girl cock, lady balls, black lace panties, and tank top, were a MESS. Peanut butter everywhere, ya’ll.

So, this one didn’t get me off either. You know what though?

6 out of 10, would try fucking again.

But now it’s time to move on and vote for what I stick my girl cock in next! Don’t forget this poll closes on Friday April 28, 2017.

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A Look Back On My First Hentai Manga and the Sexual Fantasies That Stuck

[CW: sexually explicit images, discussion of content relating to sexual assault, rape, and coercive sex. I do NOT recommend this manga series to anyone who has experienced sexual trauma.]

Way back, when the internet had JUST made the switch from dial-up to broadband, and I was a tween just beginning to discover the wonders of online porn, one of the very first pieces of erotica I ever encountered was a hentai manga called Bondage Fairies.

The general idea behind the series was that it followed these two sexy, fem fairies named Pfil and Pamela who serve as hunters working to protect their forest home from a whole bunch of crap like satanic beetles, murderous shrimp, and sexually unsatisfied squirrels. No matter what the scenario was, no matter what new menace was introduced, it almost always started with them fucking each other and then quickly led to them fucking some insect(s), intelligent woodland critter(s), each other some more, themselves, or even an adult human being from time to time.

Soon enough, I also discovered there there was so much more than just the one series. In fact, there were four! You had The Original Bondage Fairies, Bondage Fairies Extreme (which had another 14 chapters), The New Bondage Fairies (WARNING: the original series contains rape plots), and The NEW Bondage Fairies: Fairies Fetish (another sizeable collection of porn comics). I’m talking well over 1000 pages of hardcore comics, ya’ll.

And this thing just had a LOT going for it including masturbation, mutual masturbation, fingering, fisting, anal, oral, face fucking, tribbing, squriting, cum eating, non-con play, masochism, threesomes, foursomes, gang bangs, orgies, nurse play, latex fetish, whips and chains, body harnesses, collars and leashes, and more.

At the time I had NO idea what even half of these things were called, let alone that there were some many other unique fetishes at play within this fantasy setting. Over the years my desires and fantasies have certainly changed and evolved but looking through Bondage Fairies again… it’s interesting to see how many of the fetishes in particular have stuck around. For example:

 

Macrophilia/Microphilia

What the fuck is that you ask? Good question!

Have you ever been looking through porn art on the internet and up pops some Disney lewds, and there’s Tinkerbelle drawn all sexy, maybe getting down with some human sized genitalia, and you’re like “damn, Tink is hot… I wonder what doing it with a fairy would be like”?

No? Okay, well it might just be me. Whatever.

The point here is that microphilia and macrophilia are sexual fantasies that involve some form of sexual arousal around very small, oftentimes miniature, beings or very large, oftentimes gigantic, beings. These fantasies can range from imagining that you are a 500 ft tall human babe using buildings as sex toys, to a human being having having their genitals rubbed down by a fairy, or, that you’re the fairy yourself, grinding up on those gigantic sexual organs to satiate the lust of your human overlords.

Is it weird? Sure. It’s weird. I’m weird, you’re weird, people are fucking weird and so are their sexual fantasies. Let’s move on.

 

Furries

Yep! While one might think of characters like Lola Bunny, Daffy Duck, or Lt. Judy Hopps as definitive of furry characters, the genre actually has a surprising amount of variety in how furries are personified. Furries that walk, talk, dress, and behave more like humans than like animals are of the anthropomorphic variety whereas characters that speak, think, and emote like humans, yet still appear far more animal [often not wearing much of any clothes and walking around on all four limbs] are what is known as “ferals”. Outside of porn settings, you might recognize a feral furry character as characters from movies like The Lion King, The Aristocats, Lady and the Tramp, 101 Dalmations, etc.

Of course, if you’ve read my blog for a while you’d know that I’ve been into furries and furry porn [often called “yiff”] for quite a while, though I’m almost exclusively in the anthro area there.

I’m less about Simba and more about Nick Wilde or Gadget Hackwrench, yo.

 

Exhibitionism, Outdoor Sex, BDSM…

…mutual masturbation, voyeurism, group sex, pegging, and so on on so forth. So okay, a lot of this shit was hot to me then and is still hot to me now, with the exception of a handful of things that have just never really done it for me personally (ie; piss play and vorephilia). The take away here is that I think it’s pretty fascinating to look back at early exposures to erotica and possibly rediscover the roots of what sexually excites me.

Unfortunately though, revisiting Bondage Fairies wasn’t all nostalgic sexiness…

 

Rape Culture

[CW: descriptions of sexual violence and manipulation] A few of the collected stories are tarnished by plots that relied heavily on sexual assault, rape, and sexual coercion “plots”. In particular, The New Bondage Fairies collection features The Rat Patrol, The Wrath of Titanos, Jumbo Shrimp, and Super Hopper, all featuring sexual assault as core parts of their story. Worse, these presentations of sexual assaults actively work to both trivialize and eroticize those actions through tired, sexist tropes that present Pfil as deep down “wanting” the sexual abuses she receives.

Further, the author broadly paints all the cis guy characters as not having any control over their sexual lust and oftentimes the other characters, Pamela included, blatantly ignore Pfil’s very clear statements of “NO” as they guilt or coerce her into sexual situations that she has explicitly expressed discomfort with. Pamela is more often than not the worst for this, taking great pride in manipulating Pfil to have sex with her or others.

So, that fucking sucks.

 

Do you remember what your first erotic media was (video, pictures, a book, comic)?

Are some of your long-held sexual fantasies and desires represented in that early erotica?

Looking back on it now, are there things about it that you see differently now?

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