My Fucket List: The Sex I Want in 2017

2016 was a pretty big year for sexual experiences. I traded a bunch of nudes with quite a few different friends, was seen naked by a LOT of people online (booya!), had some pretty great public sex, did my first ever cum tribute to a big crush of mine, sucked some FANTASTIC girl cock, and enjoyed quite a few great threesomes and foursomes with my partner and our sexy friends.

But there is still so much more I want to do. Here are 6 things from my sexual bucket list, which I call a Fucket List (hahhhhh, get it?), that I REALLY hope happen in 2017!

 

  • Have somebody take a POV pic of me sucking their cock

Confession: some of the sex pics that turn me on the most are those POV ones of somebody sucking cock. Seriously. They’re fucking hot and this is the year I want somebody to take a sexy and cute picture of me sucking their cock!

 

  • Take my first legit facial-selfie

On that note, I can pound this one out right afterward! Once upon a time [last year] I ejaculated on my own face and took some selfies of the aftermath. Admittedly, they turned out SUPER cute [still have all of those photos], but it just didn’t feel as good as I had hoped. I want an real facial selfie… like, with another person’s semen coating my mouth, chin, and cheeks as I make lust eyes at the camera. So, at some point in 2017 I want to suck cock, get that person to take a snap of me with their genitals in my mouth, then jerk them off all over my face, and snap the cutest selfie I can for my Twitter followers.

This WILL happen.

 

  • Do a cam show

I’ve masturbated with, and for, partners over video chat before but doing a cam show is a whole other thing. At some point this year I’m hoping to set up an account on a queer and trans friendly site and put on a show for a bunch of strangers, maybe make a little money while doing it too!

 

 

  • Go to, or host, a masturbation party!

I love masturbating, especially mutual masturbation. Be it with my partner, with a friend, or with my partner AND a friend, mutual masturbating is awesome. But a masturbation party… that’s next level; and it’s something I’ve loooong fantasized about. I’m really hoping to make 2017 the year I get to one. If I can’t find something that is queer and trans safe and inclusive then I may have to take things into my own hands… and organize it myself. Invite some select queer friends to come over and hang out, eat some snacks, listen to some music, talk about self-pleasure, maybe watch some queer porn, and all masturbate together! You know, as friends do!

 

  • Get Spitroasted

For those not in the know, a “spitroast” occurs when somebody is penetrated from behind while they simultaneously provide oral sex to another person. Typically, this tends to involve penises penetrating and receiving oral BUT, despite what the internet says, those rules are not mandatory.

Whether you are giving oral to a penis or a vagina, or you’re penetrated by somebody’s genitalia, fingers, fist, or a toy, you can define the “spitroast” however you like so that it works for you and your partner[s].

Personally, I fantasize about this happening with my partner penetrating me from behind with their strap-on while I pleasure one of our friends. Fingers crossed!

 

  • More social nudity!

Not necessarily sex related at all, I kinda just want to do a bunch more nudist socializing stuff in general next year. Like, clothing optional games nights, movie nights, meals, whatevs. Have some friends over, watch Netflix, be pantsless. Perfect.

 

Whats on sexual experiences do you hope to have or explore in 2017?

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Ethical Exhibitionism: Considerate Cum Tributes

A cum tribute, also known as a “sop”, is a sexual act that involves an individual masturbating to, then ejaculating on, a still image of somebody that they find attractive. People doing cum tributes tend to ejaculate on printed photos, magazines, or even tablet, laptop, or photo screens; and then take a photo of the cum soaked image so that they can post it online… and that’s what I’d like to talk about today.

NOTE: Did you know that squirt tributes are a thing too? Booya. [Link is 100% NSFW]

Honestly, I personally find the base concept of a cum tribute to be pretty hot and under certain circumstances I’d kind of love it if somebody cummed on a photo of me. But that’s just it, there is a big difference between uploading somebodies picture covered in ejaculate, without their knowledge or permission, vs. me giving consent, and actively requesting, that somebody cum tributes me.

Look, you know and I know that nothing I say here is going to stop you from cumming on whatever picture you damn well want to; and it’s not my intention to talk you out of, or to shame you for, doing so because honestly, I’ve cum on ALL sorts of stuff too. In fact, I love cumming on things. Food, collectibles, myself, my partner, the floor, a wall, a tree, anything, really.

However, I do hope to discourage you from photographing and posting that messy picture of your friend’s selfie because, chances are, they were not aware that you pleasured yourself to their vacation photos and posted explicit imagery of their cum splattered likeness online for their friends, family, coworkers, acquaintances, prospective employers, etc. to potentially see.

That’s not cool. In fact, that’s sexual harassment.

You see, I don’t feel there is anything inherently wrong with cum tributes. It’s fantasy play. It’s a fetish act. I get that. I’ve masturbated to MANY photos of celebrities and people I know in my day to day life and, on occasion, I’ve either accidentally or intentionally shot my load all over those images. Hell, I masturbate to friends and acquaintances on Facebook all the damn time. But what I don’t do is pull out my cell phone and take a picture of my semen on a print-out of my coworker, then post that on some random Tumblr page.

To snap pictures of your genitals by a print out of somebody’s face smiling at prom, or, to cum all over a photo of them relaxing on the beach in their bikini, and to then post that all over the internet, is to involve them in sexual activity without their consent.

That’s not to say that you can’t enjoy a cum tribute at all. Here are a few options of how you can do a cum tribute considerately:

 

Just Don’t Post Them

So, you ejaculated on a picture of your roommate, or your favorite celebrity, or your ex, or whoever. Cool, sounds like a fun time! No need to post it anywhere though. Doing so isn’t a “tribute” of your lust for this person, it’s extremely inconsiderate and a legit form of sexual harassment to the person who’s likeness you just soaked in your bodily fluids for all to see. Consent isn’t just for person-to-person sexual contact, it should be extended to ALL forms of sexual acts including those online such as sexting, camming, and yes, cum tributes.

Besides, if you really, really, REALLY want to post a picture of your cum on another picture, there are ways to do that respectfully…

 

Register at an Ethically Run “Tribute” Community

Behold! The TributeMe subreddit; a genuinely awesome place where users [typically cis women] go through a verification process designed to ensure that the only photos they are uploading are of themselves [not somebody else], and, that they are fully consenting to other users [typically cis men] posting cum tributes to said photo or images that they provide. Honestly, it’s magical and this is EXACTLY what the base concept of ethical exhibitionism is all about to me: practicing exhibitionism with consent and consideration.

Take this thread for example, the original poster has already been verified so any images she posts are of her. She opens her thread celebrating that verification, posts a picture of herself naked, and invites everybody to in turn to post pictures and/or videos of themselves ejaculating onto that original photo of her naked body. Consent is given and all those participating are doing so in an extremely hot, yet surprisingly respectful, manner!

How fucking cool is that?! THANK you, TributeMe. I’d love to see an explicitly queer version of this some day. If that already exists, PLEASE tell me cause I want to go to there.

But we’re not done! There are still other options too, like…

 

Post Cum Tributes of Animated or Drawn Characters

Seriously. There is literally an endless supply of sexy fictional characters out there from video games, animated movies/shows, anime, comic books, graphic novels, etc. that you can cum all over and post those gloriously messy pictures all over the internet to your hearts desires.

Jessica Rabbit, Nightwing (mmmm Dick Grayson), Liara T’soni, Lara Croft, Harley Quinn, Poison Ivy, Batgirl, fuckin’ Wolverine, the entire goddamn cast of World of Warcraft, etc. there are countless hand-drawn, digitized, animated, or 3D models for you to cum on and post away knowing that you’re not potentially harming a living person.

Here are some I did to Lola Bunny and Lady Sylvanas Windrunner:

You know who gets hurt by you posting a picture of your ejaculate on shirtless Bruce Wayne from the Batman comics? Nobody, because he’s not real… well, except for maybe the artists who might see their hard work being used for wank material. Sorry, illustrators and animators!

One more time for those in the back: exhibitionism can, and should, be practiced with consent and consideration.

 

For More Ethical Exhibitionism topics check out:

Where to Find Consenting Audiences

Outdoor and Semi-Public Places to Discreetly Masturbate

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Just the Tips on Frenulum Stimulation for People With a Penis

Well hello there people with a penis, or people who just want to learn more about the penis! Have you ever heard of the frenulum? It’s okay, I hadn’t either until earlier this year. But if this is an area of you penis that you haven’t yet explored I HIGHLY recommend that you look into because if yours is even half as sensitive an erogenous zone as mine is… then you need to get on playing with that, stat!

 

What the hell, and where the heck, is this “frenulum”?

Quick 101 time! The frenulum is a band of tissue located just under the glans penis (the “head” of your penis) that attaches the foreskin to the penis itself. It is often cited as one of the most sensitive places on a penis.

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For those who are circumcised, you may or may not have much of your frenulum left depending on how your circumcision was done. In most North American circumcisions, the frenulum is almost completely severed and removed along with the foreskin.  As such, everybody’s penis will have varying levels of sensitivity depending on any number of factors that may or may not include circumcision.

If you do have a frenulum, cool! If you do not, cool! Whether you’re circumcised or not, have your frenulum or don’t, these factors do NOT determine your virility or sexual function. You are not “broken” and your penis is still awesome either way! [Unless you don’t like your penis, then, boooooo penises!]

 

Just the Tips on Frenulum Stimulation

If the frenulum does end up being a pleasurable revelation for you (you’re welcome) then here are a few more ideas for you to explore either on your own or with a partner(s), play friend, fuck buddy, whatever!

 

Pro-tip 1: Let the person(s) you’re having sex with know about how much you like stimulation on your frenulum. In fact, let them know about all of the areas that you like, or don’t like, being touched! Great, healthy, communication in the bedroom involves feeling comfortable and confident in expressing your sexual needs with anybody you may be engaging in sexual activity with. Encourage them to play around with ways that they may stimulate your frenulum during foreplay, oral sex, and/or with toys.

For those perhaps giving oral to a person with a penis, release the damn Kraken with your tongue! Seriously. Let it wander. Do circles. Drag it all around the underside of the penis head and listen out for those gasps, moans, etc. to cue you into whether or not you’re hitting the right spot.

Note: if you are engaging in sexual activity with a queer identified person who has a penis, be sure to ask them how they would like their genitalia referred to! For many queer and trans folk, developing and using appropriate terminology for their body can be an extremely liberating and positive journey toward healthy self-discovery. For example; my penis is my “girl cock”.

 

Pro-tip 2: Get a vibe. Any vibe, seriously [so long as it is body safe]. Using vibrating toys (eggs, vibrators, bullets, or wands) on the frenulum is honestly divine. I’ve gone full play sessions experiencing all sort of pleasure waves and mini-orgasms with a well placed vibe on the shaft of my girl cock.

I HIGHLY recommend the Shibari Wand for frenulum stimulation. It is body safe, lightweight (for a wand), rechargeable, and economical. About a week ago, after my partner was casually playing with my girl cock for about half-an-hour on the couch they then went and grabbed our Shibari Wand. With it set to the high, sustained vibration setting, they grabbed my girl cock and held the Shibari to my frenulum. Less than 5-minutes later I had, I kid you not, the most intense full body orgasm and the messiest, most powerful cumshot I’ve had in months. How powerful? Over the shoulder powerful. No jokes, we had to cut some of my hair afterward because I shot that high and far.

Great thing about the Shibari vibe too is that there are a lot of settings that play with intensity level and vibration patterns as well. So you have some room to experiment with what feels the best to you.

 

Pro-tip 3: If you don’t own, or have a means of acquiring, a vibe of some kind that’s okay too. Many people enjoy and have experienced orgasm from frenulum stimulation with use of their good ol’ fashioned fingers and hands. It just takes patience, practice, and persistence in exploring exactly what makes you feel best. Some individuals can achieve orgasm from softly rubbing, or “strumming”, their frenulum for a sustained period of time with their fingers.

 

Pro-tip 4: Be creative with using other fabrics and items as stimulation aids! For example, wearing a pair of cheap wool gloves or a soft winter mitt while playing can potentially add whole new levels of pleasure (just take your time and keep an eye out for skin redness, soreness, or irritation).

Using a pair of panties, or underwear, or any other item of clothing you don’t mind getting messy, could also help. Alternatively, if you have any stuffed animals or soft pillows to rub up against, consider trying them out too! You never know what feels great until you try!

 

Hump away, friend!

 

NOTE: Thursday updates will be re-posts from mxnillin.wordpress.com, which was permanently suspended by WordPress due to their sexphobic anti-porn and anti-sex work policies. This post was originally published on November 14, 2016. Click here for the full story.

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