25 Facts About My Queer Sex Life

Red Hot Suz recently did a 50 Fun Sex Facts About Me post, which I thought was pretty cool so I decided to do one too; except I’m going to split mine in half. So, here are the first 25 fun sex facts about Mx Nillin!

  1. I masturbate outdoors semi-frequently, especially in our backyard at night. It’s kinda my fave.
  2. I often dream of buying land and living as a full-time nudist in an RV home.
  3. My first sexual experiences were experimenting with my best friend during sleepovers and making out in his bedroom closet.
  4. When I was 17-years-old I used to sneak out of the house to suck the cocks of various internet hookups. In that one year I sucked, like, 30 cocks, and had my cock sucked a bunch, but I still considered myself a “virgin” because: heteronormativity.
  5. Because of that internalized homophobia and heteronormativity, I didn’t think that I had “lost my virginity” until I had PIV sex in a co-worker’s backyard when I was 21.
  6. My partner and I are non-monogamous. We sext and flirt with a lot of people online but we’ve only ever invited 3 people into our bed.
  7. I refer to my penis as my “girl cock” both in my writing and in person.
  8. I read more sex comics than I watch porn.
  9. My favorite sex comics often involve high fantasy scenarios or furry femboys.
  10. While I am domming my partner, they refer to me with the non-binary kink honorific “Mxtress” [pronounced mix-tress] rather than using any binary gendered titles.
  11. I LOVE edging [orgasm control].
  12. I once hooked up with a dude in his car who was high on poppers and I basically just watched him helicopter his flaccid dick around until I could safely excuse myself. That put me off of hookups for a couple years..
  13. One of my biggest fantasies is to be just covered in cum from multiple people jerking off onto me.
  14. I’m strangely turned on by satanic, witchcraft, and occult porn and erotic art.
  15. When I was really young and just discovering masturbation, I used to stop before orgasming because I had no idea what the sensation was [I had never been taught about orgasms] and it scared me.
  16. I LOVE eating semen, be it my own or someone else’s.
  17. Mutual masturbation is without a doubt one of my favorite sexual activities.
  18. I really, really want to attend a group masturbation party.
  19. While I’ve been fucked in the ass a lot, I’ve never been fucked by a penis. That’d be cool.
  20. I’m super not okay with having been circumcised without my consent as a baby. Like, I’m kinda pissed about it.
  21. When I was, like, 12 I cut a hole into a large sized stuffed leopard plushy and I fucking wrecked that thing… I think there was more cum in it than stuffing by the time I finally threw it out.
  22. I would suck cock every day if I could.
  23. I was kinda bummed by how awkward, loud, and clunky my first fleshlight was.
  24. I’ll fuck just about anybody, but I feel far more comfortable with queer and femme folks.
  25. I used to stick a lot of non-body safe household items into my butt, and that’s what inspired fucking weird things SAFELY for the Mx Nillin Fucks series.

Check back next week for 25 more sex facts about me! In the meantime, what would some of your sex facts be?

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Mx Nillin’s Monthly Refap: May 2017

[CW: nudity, pic of cum covered girl cock at the very end of this post]

Pretty quick monthly refap this time around as I’ve been in a huge funk that I’m just now really getting out of.

Feeling hopeful about June though. Got a few unique writing opportunities coming up, I’m getting back into doing#SexEdPonReviews for Crash Pad Series, a bit again, I’ll have a table for the blog at the Gender Fair in Regina on June 10th, and Wonder Woman comes out today, so, everything’s coming up Nillin!

 

Blog Related Stuff

Well, this was a month of literally nothing going according to plan. With May being Masturbation Month I had originally planned out a new Mx Nillin Fucks post, a piece where my partner interviews me about Mx Nillin Fucks, a post on why I feel that safe masturbation practices should be a crucial part of sex ed, and a post on observations made while eating my own cum for an entire month.

And then none of that happened… so… fuck. Anyway, here are the two posts I DID get around making, which just kinda came together:

  • I’m That Angry Queer, a piece on the power of owning your queer anger and rejecting tone policing bullshit, respectability politics for our oppressors, abusive trolls, and shitty performative allies.

 

A Surprisingly Sweet Threesome, Cum Eating Observations, and Social Recalibration.

  • In early May, Fal and I had our very close friend and lover come to visit us for the weekend. It was so fucking hot out (30+ degrees) so we mostly stayed indoors watching horror movies and playing tabletop games in various stages of partial nudity. Then we had, what I felt, was by far the most affectionate and passionate threesome than I’ve ever experienced before. It started with a naked snuggle pile of gentle kisses and caresses before getting hot and heavy. Time just kinda slowed down and the whole thing felt super… romantic, I guess? Maybe it was just me. Anyway, Fal and I have always felt that sex with this lover is constantly wonderful but I just felt like there was just something really deep and EXTRA intimate about it this time. It was incredible.
  • One of my, sadly, abandoned pieces for Masturbation Month was observations on eating my own cum for the entire month. Obviously I didn’t accomplish this, BUT I did still eat my cum an awful lot. 20 loads of it, to be exact! And some of the observations were pretty interesting. For starters, I realized that I masturbate to sex comics more than any other form of porn. The second thing I masturbate most to is pics, or fantasies, of my friends. Also, my cum is flavorless. Yep. It genuinely does not have any discernible taste the vast majority of the time. This is something that was confirmed by both my partner and our lover during the aforementioned threesome. Does it mean anything? I dunno. I don’t really care. I’m kinda just cool with my flavorless loads.
  • My social needs tend to change rather drastically, and radically, depending on where I am in life. This sometimes leads to what many may consider bridge burning, but I see more as re-calibrating. I recently trimmed back my Facebook friends list to just very close friends and some sex ed peers. Doing so was long overdue given the emotional and psychological overload that is 2017. My social media feed is considerably less conservative, and almost devoid of white, cis nonsense. Call that a bubble all you like, idgaf.

 

Other Cool Stuff

Decided to add a new section this time, basically just quickly highlighting a bunch of other stuff I liked, found interesting, and/or just wanted to share from the last month. So, here’s some of that stuff.

 

Slutty Pic(s) of the Month

So, once again I haven’t taken any new nudes because my mental health has been a huge pile of shit. Depression fucking sucks, y’all. But here’s an especially lewd old fave of mine!

 

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5 Surprisingly Cool Benefits to Mutual Masturbation

Happy Mid-Masturbation month, y’all! I know I’m a little late to the party already but I’ve been busy looking after my mental health and, well, masturbating. Also, mapping out what to write about for the next couple of weeks.

Not only am I midway through eating my own cum every day this month (and tracking details on taste and texture), I’m also prepping a new Mx Nillin Fucks post and my partner is interviewing me about that feature! So, keep an eye out for those over the new couple of weeks.

What I’d like to chat about in this piece though is something that I feel is SORELY underappreciated by most. Not only is it something I rarely hear talked about among friends, or anybody discussing sexuality, but it’s something that is also just really fucking fun… to be honest. So what is the thing that I’m being unnecessarily obtuse about?

Why, it’s mutual masturbation, of course! What is mutual masturbation?

It’s the act of two or more people masturbating in the presence of one another. While purists may say that it has to be done in person, I say that’s a bunch of hooey because as far as I’m concerned mutual masturbation can absolutely be enjoyed long distance over the phone, messenger, voice chat, or any video chat services as well.

Also, contrary to popular misconception, mutual masturbation does not require you to be in a committed relationship in order to do it. No, no. Fuck that noise. You can mutually masturbate with all kinds of people, so long as everybody is comfortable and consenting. I’m talking your friend(s), roommate(s), coworker(s), classmate(s), or even a complete stranger on ChatRoulette. [Oh ChatRoulette…]

Anyway, here are five pretty cool benefits that I’ve discovered through my experiences masturbating with others:

 

It’s a Great Way to Share Your Own, and Learn About Other, Sexual Fantasies

Are you really into pet play? How about exhibitionism? Maybe you love fisting, or gangbangs, or eating ass. Have you ever wanted to dress-up like members of the Avengers with somebody and just fuck like animals because you’re about to got fight Ultron and you have no idea whether or not you’ll survive? Awesome, get some of your go to porn links together and save those to your favorites, if you haven’t already, because now would be a great time to break the ice on them.

Usually when I mutually masturbate with my partner we take turns picking out porn vids. Through this practice, I have learned a lot about their sexual fantasies and desires for really rough sex, humiliation play, and fisting, among others. Likewise, I have picked out videos that often feature exhibitionism, public sex, cum play, pet play, and, at times, some hentai or erotic furry art.

Treat it like a sort of show and tell for your kinks! You don’t even have to be in a committed relationship. If you’re masturbating with a friend this can still be a great practice in kink positivity wherein you both have the opportunity to share and talk about what excites you.

 

You Can Learn Self-Pleasure Techniques for Your Own Enjoyment That You Didn’t Know Before

Regardless of who you do it with, one of the best things about masturbating with somebody who has similar genitals as yourself is that you can learn exciting self-pleasure methods you may not have tried yourself yet! As somebody with a girl cock, I feel very fortunately to have had the opportunity to masturbate with a fair amount of people with a penis over the years. Be it a pacing thing, a creative way to use your free hand, or a specific stroking method I wasn’t familiar with, I’ve almost always managed to pick up something refreshing and fun from the ways that I’ve seen my friends and lovers jerk off.

And sure, you could learn something from just watching a solo jerk off scene too BUT, believe me when I say that masturbating with somebody who you feel comfortable with, who you can actually converse with, who you can ask questions, watch up close, be watched by, replicate the techniques of more accurately, etc. is an experience unlike any other.

My partner and I always argue over who gets to use the wand. It’s magical, y’all…

 

It Can Be a Huge Confidence Builder

When you are masturbating with a great friend, partner, or lover, don’t be stingy on the compliments! Nothing lifts confidence like some flattering remarks, so, if things seem a little on the quiet side then toss some out there to whoever you’re ‘bating with. Chances are that this will add to the overall excitement of things for both of you while simultaneously encouraging empowering remarks.

It’s not just about feeling good during sexual experiences. People tend to also want to feel attractive to whoever they are being sexual with, and like they are contributing to those exchanges in meaningful ways. So, get those balls rolling! Empower your jerk off buddy with some playful, sexy, accolades and encourage them to hand some your way too!

Overall, mutual masturbation has the potential to be a very uplifting exercise that leaves you, and your masturbating guest, feeling satisfied in more ways than one.

 

It’s a Great Way to Practice Dirty Talk

Whether you’re new to it, or a seasoned smut master with your words, mutual masturbation provides a unique opportunity to practice some dirty talk in a relatively chill environment. It actually took me quite awhile to get comfortable with dirty talking. I had never been very good at it and it just generally wasn’t something I was very confident with. While having sex, there were many instances where my partner would want some dirty talk while we were having rough sex but I just couldn’t find the words, for whatever reason.

During mutual masturbation, though, my partner slowly encouraged me to explore dirty talk through us watching BDSM scenes as we pleasured ourselves. Every so often they would lean a little closer and ask things like “wouldn’t you like to do that to me?”, “what else would you do?”, “what am I?”, etc. And, needless to say, once you start answer those questions… well, you’re on your way!

Watching porn with your jerk off buddy (or buddies) allows you the opportunity to really share and explore each other’s fantasies, kinks, and desires. Plus, it’s hot as fuck!

 

It’s a Great Way to Show Your Partner(s)/Lover(s) What You Like, And Learn What They Like Too

Mutually masturbating with somebody can provide the unique opportunity to literally give them a presentation on how you personally derive pleasure. Look at it as a prime time to really show your partner(s) or lover(s) what you like through highlighting the self-pleasure methods you use.

Is there a specific way that you like having your genitals stimulated? Cool, be sure to really highlight that as you play. Are there other areas on your body that REALLY up the pleasure you experience? Awesome, touch and/or caress those too. Personally, mutually masturbating has felt like one of the most natural times to convey how I like to be touched to my partner(s).

Likewise, there’s no better way to learn how you can more effectively get your partner(s) or lover(s) off than by watching them literally show you how they get themselves off. Pay attention and you’re sure to learn many fun tricks!

 

How about you folks? Have you mutually masturbated with anyone before? If so, what was your experience with it?

 

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