I’m sorry to hear that those dating forums are pretty aggressively anti-traps and femboys. That’s not cool. Policing, disrespecting, and oppressing the identities of others is what trans, queer, and enby folks are supposed to be fighting against, so… why are they treating crossdressers, traps, femboys, sissies, in those very same abusive ways? Targeting the WRONG folks here. You aren’t to blame for assholes and bigots appropriating your identity and using it as a re-purposed slur. Asshole bigots are to blame. And clearly, you’re not calling trans people traps. That’s how you are identifying yourself and that is completely valid.

The shit is SUPER frustrating because femboy and trap have always been innocent terms i’ve known people to use as positive self description, and now because some asshole called a trans person a trap, i’m a badguy and so is any other self proclaimed trap/femboy because we don’t want to let assholes ruin stuff that is just a matter of fucking semantics and context.

Gives me a sigh of relief to read an article that explains the stupidity behind such logic.