I’ve been having some coffee dates with a new person this past month and y’all, it’s been pretty great. They’re so cute and I’ve had a crush on them for quite a while, but we just kinda circled each other online and in our local polyam and LGBTQ community up until now. Building this new connection has been exactly what I’ve needed though.
I often feel like there’s a rush to have sex when it comes to dating, like it’s assumed that as soon as you go to meet up that sex is both wanted and the ultimate goal of that meeting. In fact, almost all first dates I’ve ever had have ended with something sexual, to some degree, happening. I mean, I get it, us queers can be a horny bunch! I’m certainly a horny queer myself! But my needs with making new connections have definitely changed in recent years.
I need a slower build. I need thoughtful conversation, genuine laughs, authentic vulnerable and intimacy. No rush, no pressure, just wholesome cute gayness moving at a demisexual pace.
I’m happy to report that’s what I’m getting here. I knew that the vibes were what I was looking for when the last time I was over there, earlier this week, they asked me to hold my hand! It was just… gah, so heckin’ cute! And the gentle cuddles, happy sights, hair rubs, soft kiss and forehead nuzzles that followed definitely helped too.
Maybe it’ll progress to more, maybe the more might include some sexy times of some kind, I’m not entirely sure and I’m not gonna assume either way. All I know is that I absolutely adore this wholesome gay energy and intimacy. I hope that these coffee dates continue to be a thing!
