Thank you so much for reading and commenting! I’m already really glad I wrote it if even just for some of the conversations I’ve had with fellow bloggers and friends about the value of communicating these needs and wants in all variety of relationships (romantic, emotional, platonic, professional, social, etc.)!

And THANK YOU for noticing my inspiring girl cock 🙂

Aww I really appreciate that! But also, if you called me gorgeous I’d melt from happy, squishy feels because I’m super into you and consider you in my “safe people who make me feel really great and awesome and affirmed” circle. I ended up clarifying a few points in the post from when the original share went out via email because I realized that I really wanted to stipulate that people who I’m really into, as well as those who I consider decent friends, are also individuals I enjoy calling me “gorgeous” and stuff.

This is mostly a guideline for folks who I don’t really know, and who really don’t know me. Those folks that I’m not connected with on a clearly interpersonal level. I mean, I think the bits highlighting specific parts of me that I like complimented, and the stuff about if I’m putting lewdness out there that I encourage and appreciate consensual, respectful lewdness in return, are pretty universal still lol

But yes, please, if the mood strikes call me gorgeous and compliment my eyes all you’d like 😉 <3 You're one of a very small group that I genuinely would enjoy hearing that from.

I think everyone I know should give me a list like this so I can use their favourite words and avoid their no-nos.

I really like that you just mentioned love languages because I hadn’t really thought of that while writing this but… yeah! That’s actually exactly what I’m trying to express only in the context of blog post comments and flirting, complimenting, or otherwise interacting with peers or pals in these oftentimes sexually charged spaces that we create and share!

Personally I’d love to learn more about what other bloggers feel comfortable with in terms of the comments that they get on their work too. Cause yeah I I TOTALLY agree that those conversations are important in fostering consensual, affirming, safe, and communicative communities.

And I think we could all really benefit from expressing our “blogger love languages” to each other as well! Cause yay for affirming pants tingling! LOL

You just gave me warm squishy feels and yes all the comments I have left you here have always been absolutely genuine and definitely reflect the feelings and responses you have inspired me in. It is still a good conversation to have though and reminds me of some stuff I read recently about love language and learning what your partners love language is… it is like that but for sexy blog post comments that make peoples pants tingle!

Mollyx

See, and this is where I’ll admit that I have some double standards because there are also some friends/peers that I actually really like hearing those compliments from as well. For example; I quite like when YOU call me “pretty” or “gorgeous” too, but I’m not as comfortable with that from ALL bloggers.

And I think a big part of that is because I know for a fact that you’ve thoroughly read my blog, like a LOT, and that includes so many of my personal pieces, that there’s no way any of your comments are ever coming from a place of being ignorant or misinformed. Therefore, you are somebody I consider to be very safe and who I’m comfortable being complimented by or flirting with, so, you calling me “fucking gorgeous” feels genuine and gives me the swoons!

I think I’m going to go back and add that in there because it is a point that I want to clarify. A lot of this doesn’t necessarily apply to folks who I consider closer peers and/or firends either.

THANK YOU for calling me ravishing too though! <3

This is more my attempt at vocalizing/expressing some things that I’ve never vocalized or expressed before in the hopes of mitigating future instances.

This is particularly useful

“pretty”, “gorgeous”, “stunning”, or “beautiful”

because those are definitely words I know I would use. I can totally imagine saying to you, you look fucking gorgeous, because I like that word and it would feel ‘right’ to me. Knowing it makes you uncomfortable is something I will try to note and always remember.

Oh and just so you know, you look ravishable in that picture in the bathtub

Molly