Sometimes things don’t line up when you really want them to. Like when a girl you like a whole lot isn’t in the right place to have an intimate connection with you, and then when she is you’re not in a place to have one with her. And then she moves over four-thousand kilometres away…
Tag: polyamory
The 38-Year-Old Queer
In the past I’ve only done these posts every five years; first when I turned 30 and then again at 35. In both cases I reflected on difficult feelings about my identity and how bad my mental health always gets around my birthdays. It’s a trauma response for sure. After so many years of disappointment…
I Had No Future Until Now
Nobody said this was gonna be easy, but I didn’t think that it would be this hard either. I’m on a bunch of dating apps, matching with people here and there, but they’re all widely dead ends. Missed connections, conflicting schedules, drops in conversation, a lack of energy on both sides, it’s all contributed to…
When Polyamory and Non-monogamy Gets Hard; Unpacking Big Feelings and Re-Centring Yourself
Content note: mention of sexual assault. For the last decade I’ve been polyamorous and in non-monogamous relationships. Overall I can confidently say that I’ve felt pretty good about it, and it’s had a positive impact on my life. I’ve met some really amazing people and had a lot of profoundly memorable experiences with them. It…
Wholesome Gay Coffee Dates
I’ve been having some coffee dates with a new person this past month and y’all, it’s been pretty great. They’re so cute and I’ve had a crush on them for quite a while, but we just kinda circled each other online and in our local polyam and LGBTQ community up until now. Building this new…