When you’ve had to operate emotionally at a 10 for so long, it’s hard accepting that you’re safe enough to relax and not operate in survival mode. I made a lot of really big mistakes last year while in an activated state that I really regret. Mistakes that almost cost me one of the most…
Tag: polyamory
I Asked Former Partners, Play Friends, and Hookups to Give Me Feedback
If you haven’t checked it out yet, you should go and read the bold and interesting post that Girl on the Net (follow her on Bluesky) put up this week. It was originally posted on a site that she used to write for, but sadly is gone now. Fortunately, many of her pieces survived in…
Like It Was Yesterday; My Comet Partner
Sometimes things don’t line up when you really want them to. Like when a girl you like a whole lot isn’t in the right place to have an intimate connection with you, and then when she is you’re not in a place to have one with her. And then she moves over four-thousand kilometres away…
The 38-Year-Old Queer
In the past I’ve only done these posts every five years; first when I turned 30 and then again at 35. In both cases I reflected on difficult feelings about my identity and how bad my mental health always gets around my birthdays. It’s a trauma response for sure. After so many years of disappointment…
I Had No Future Until Now
Nobody said this was gonna be easy, but I didn’t think that it would be this hard either. I’m on a bunch of dating apps, matching with people here and there, but they’re all widely dead ends. Missed connections, conflicting schedules, drops in conversation, a lack of energy on both sides, it’s all contributed to…