2019 was a fuck of a year for a lot of us, it seems. It definitely has been for me at times too as I’ve experienced both huge successes and some pretty fucking rough personal strife. Namely, I’ve had a lot of gender struggles going on again, communication issues with those closest to me, shame feelings, and some pretty drastic changes to my polyamory and non-monogamy, all of which has been super challenging.
So of course I’ve been leaning into the community a lot, seeking guidance, support, and affirmations in the writing and creativity of others. And y’all have NOT disappointed! I can honestly say that I don’t know how I would’ve done without your blogs, shared experiences, and perspectives on radically queer love, sex, and relationships.
Here are six blogs from queer and/or trans creators that were SUPER instrumental to my self-care, personal growth, introspective work, and general mental health and wellness, that I strongly recommend you check out too if you haven’t already!
Morgan is SUCH a talented writer and I’ve been absolutely devouring their work this past year. One of my favourite things about their content is that I genuinely learn a lot from them every time I read a new post. They provide such an important, and often dismissed, perspective and it’s all presented through such a playful and genuine feeling voice. They are one of the rare bloggers whose personality, I feel, really comes through in their writing, and that makes reading it all the more delightful. I feel like Morgan would just be an awesome person to hang out with, and that’s always a quality that draws me into a blog even more.
I’ve been reading Kate’s blog since before I started sex blogging and I find myself back on her site practically every few days, catching up on new posts and discovering others from throughout the years that I’ve missed. As a blogger, her posts on writing in particular have been so, so important and affirming to me, helping me get through everything from contemplating my blogger voice, to improving my site for readers, discovering my self-worth, and even getting through instances of intense self-doubt and imposter syndrome.
A new discovery for me this year, Eve writes about a lot of really vulnerable, introspective shit and that’s a quality that I’ve always loved about a blogger. Reading her pieces on everything from struggling with masturbation, dealing with doctors who’ve given up on treating her, speaking out about buttons on sex toys being a massive accessibility issue in the industry, relearning boundaries, to a recent post on allowing herself the space to rediscover pleasure without placing too many expectations on herself, has been genuinely inspiring to me while also providing me with perspective I have been sorely lacking.
Finally, a fellow blogger who says “fuck” and generally swears as much as I do, if not more! Like, she says “fuck” and “cunt” like I say “fuck”, “cock”, and “shit”, and I love it. Not gonna lie, sometimes I feel like maybe I’m too crass and shit and then wonder if that’s a bad thing, but then I found this blog and now my resolve to continue being be my foul-mouthed, unapologetic self is as strong as it ever has been.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: Quinn has written some of the absolute BEST queer and trans erotica that I have ever read. Seriously, hir words are intoxicating and hir skill at weaving entrancing erotic tales is something I aspire to myself. It’s not all about the arousal though! All year I’ve found deeply affecting content that spoke to me on an intimate level and I love that ze has generally been so open about hir experiences in and out of relationships, with hirself, partners, lovers, and friends-with-benefits too.
Ever since coming out as polyamorous and non-monogamous a few years ago, Page’s site has proven to be an invaluable resource for both my personal and interpersonal growth. 2019 has especially been a challenging year for my polyamory feels and relationships so I found the site to be an even more substantial resource in trying to navigate complex emotional topics these past 12-and-some months. I have spent many, many hours reading the content here while self-reflecting, and almost always find something at least partially relatable and applicable to my situation.
Did you read any great sex blogs from queer and/or trans peeps this year? Share ’em in the comments below!