Turning 37 has come with a lot more big feelings than I’d thought it would. I mean, what even is 37? I hadn’t even considered that this was an age I could be until it was here. It’s not turning 40, entering that part of existence considered your “mid-life”. It’s not even turning 35, when…
Tag: non-monogamy
Setting My Non-Negotiable Relationship Boundaries
Generally speaking boundaries come in two core forms for me: those that guide me, but are open to growth and adjustment along my journey, and those which are absolutely essential exactly as they are, their existence being crucial to my feeling emotionally, physically, psychologically, and possibly even financially, safe. Those latter ones are your non-negotiables,…
How I Experience Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)
I’ve come to learn a lot about myself recently, especially this past year, and with that have come a lot of official diagnoses for things that have since helped me connect with myself on profoundly new levels. For starters, I’ve recently been diagnosed as Autistic, with ADHD, and complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Knowing this…
How My Relationship Needs Have Evolved Over the Pandemic
I’ve been thinking an awful lot about my needs and wants when it comes to relationships lately. In early 2021, shortly after the big parts of the pandemic lockdown were starting to lift, I was in a pretty chaotic state of being. Following months of emotional turmoil, gaslighting, arguments, manipulation, intimidation, and yelling, all culminating…
My 2023 Fucket List
Wow, it has been a while since I’ve done one of these. Two years, in fact! When I used to do them I think I took them a little too literally. When I didn’t end up experiencing as much of my fucket lists as I’d hoped I’d feel pretty bummed out about it, like I…