Hey y’all! I’m extremely excited to introduce you to my good friend and textbook hottie, Leona de Leon, who wrote this EXCELLENT guest post for Blogger Love Language month here on the blog. So stoked to be sharing it, I hope you all enjoy and please leave her some comment love after reading!
Hi, everyone! I’m Leona and I’m a 24-year-old queer femme WOC who takes dirty pics and posts them all over Twitter!
As someone who shares lewds and nudes on social media, I’ve interacted a lot with dozens of people in dozens of ways, some more pleasant than others. In the past year or so, I’ve learned not just how to be more social online but what kinds of interactions are fulfilling to me and which are draining. So, inspired by Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages, as highlight in Mx Nillin’s Blogger Love Language month writing prompt, I decided to categorize the different kinds of interactions I have with my online followers and share with y’all how they affect me on social media. And maybe if you want to know how to best interact with me on Twitter, this will become a little guide for you!
Here I’ll list the kinds of interactions I have with my followers based on Dr. Chapman’s Love Languages, from the least appreciated to the most appreciated:
Physical Touch – Requests to meet in person…
This is the only of my “NSFW Twitter Love Languages” that I don’t actually appreciate. I have no problem talking about sexual things with strangers online or trading nudes from them if they ask me prior. What I DO have a problem with is when followers I’ve never spoken to attempt to convince to meet them in person. While some claim to have more “pure” reasons to want to meet me (like one follower of mine who wanted to meet me in person so he could propose marriage to me), most are trying to just meet up to have sex (one Instagram follower offered me $10,000 USD to meet him in New York for a single night of fun). I’m not comfortable with meeting strangers in person (UNLESS I’ve already established a friendship with them), and when they keep asking over and over I feel like my boundaries are being disrespected and begin to feel unsafe.
Gifts – Personal lewds and Amazon gift cards!
While I don’t receive gifts often, I do appreciate the occasional gift sent to me from mutuals of mine. Sometimes they’re small “homemade” gifts, like personal lewds sent to me from good friends of mine – which I definitely consider gifts and it warms my heart to receive them. On one occasion, a mutual straight up offered to buy me a new vibrator since he knew I really wanted one. One Amazon gift card later I got my Shibari wand vibe, and it’s still one of the best gifts I’ve received to this day! I don’t expect anyone to buy me a bunch of stuff or send me nudes out of the blue, but getting sent a little something with real thought behind it (like a picture, a poem, some artwork, etc.) can make my day.
Acts of Service – Retweeting my content!
Okay, this one might seem like a stretch, but I consider retweets to be an act of service. One of the greatest things we can do in this beautiful little sex-positive space online is support each others work! While it’s great to get monetary support, sometimes that isn’t always possible for followers of content creators. So how else can we support each other? Promote our work! Spread the word! Hype us up! When a follower or mutual of mine retweets my content, that tells me that they think my content is worthy of sharing and that they want encourage others to give it attention! And that honestly means the whole world to me.
Quality Time – Getting to really know me!
Sure, sexting is cool, but have you ever sexted/traded nudes with someone who you considered to be a good friend of yours? While I’m a pretty shy person and I can’t always get myself to strike up conversations with others, I do enjoy talking to new people and actually getting to know them! Maybe it’s my demisexuality talking, but I feel much more fulfilled when I have fun, interesting conversations with new people, whether or not sex is the topic at hand. Pro tip to those who’d like to sext with me: get to know me a little before you ask if we can trade nudes.
Words of Affirmation – Compliments!!
Of course, who doesn’t like to get compliments on their work? Yes, getting likes and retweets on my posts are wonderful ways to show me that you enjoy my content, but I love to hear specific things you enjoy about it. When I post new lewds and nudes, I enjoy hearing specific compliments on my face, hair, body, outfits and anything else that strikes my followers as beautiful or sexy; I also don’t mind when my followers have more explicit comments for my pictures (i.e. “I’d love to taste you” or “The things I’d do to you”) as long as they don’t demand that I post more revealing pictures that I’ve already shared. Reading words of love, encouragement and support really motivate me to truly embrace my body and continue sharing pictures with my followers.
So now that you know my “NSFW Twitter Love Languages”, don’t be scared to get to know me! I love making new friends, sharing dirty pics and having thoughtful conversations, just as long as whoever I’m talking to approaches me respectfully, doesn’t push when I tell them not to, and remembers that I’m a person first and a sex object second.
I hope you enjoyed my little piece for Nillin’s #BloggerLoveLanguage Month!
Leona de Leon