One Rainbow Apart 2020 - Week 1 Round-up

We’re officially a FULL week into One Rainbow Apart 2020 and there’s already been a lot of outstanding content coming in from trans and queer bloggers around the world. Throughout the month I plan on doing roundups to highlight the posts folks have been linking in, which I hope help readers find pieces that they can relate to.

But please read everything, if you can! There are a lot of diverse stories and perspectives coming in that I hope folks can learn from as well.

Of course, I’ve also written a couple of posts myself. One on how I love eating my own cum, called “Homemade“, and another providing affirming messages to those exploring their gender identity and expression, called “6 Transition Affirmations For Those Exploring Their Gender“.

But i don’t want to focus on me with this roundup, this is about my incredible LGBTQIA+ peers! Their voices matter too and I’m excited to share them with thiy here:

Happy Pride! by Queer Courtesan

“For many, the true celebration might fall on the last weekend of the month to reflect the anniversary of the Stonewall Riots – June 28, 1969. Whenever, and however, you celebrate, I wish you a happy Pride and a very warm welcome if this is your first year celebrating. You belong here, no matter how you identify.”

Between Erasure and Hypervisibility by Quenby

“Being trans and bi means I am caught between hypervisibility and erasure, which each come with their own costs. Seeing the systemic erasure of my identity is so frustrating that I want to scream and scream and scream until I can’t be ignored. But the hypervisibility my transness confers on me is a real danger.”

Am I the “Q” In LGBTQIA+ or Am I the “+” Because There Is No “P”? by Vanilla Free Sex

“Even though I was still sexually attracted to men it was far and few between. At the time I didn’t experience romantic attractions to men, only women. If it came up, I didn’t deny my sexual attraction to men but still identified as a lesbian. Technically I was bisexual and homoromantic at the time.”

Also by Vanilla Free Sex: That One Time I Lied About My Sexual Orientation“I excitedly told her that a bunch of my friends and I were going to dinner at a gay restaurant and then to the gay club for the drag show. Her response was “ But YOU’RE not!?”(gay). The tone of her voice cut into me. She was fine with me having gay friends and going to gay clubs but I couldn’t possibly be.“

You ARE Queer Enough! by Floss Does Life

“Your sexuality is not about who you’ve fucked, or who you’ve loved, it’s about what you know to be true in your heart. Queerness in my eyes is far more about accepting your capacity to love and desire people above and beyond genitalia.”

Also by Floss: Why I Think Hate is An Easy, Lazy Thing!“It’s human nature to fear things we don’t understand and that is the root cause of a lot of bigotry. To love all of our fellow human beings, enough to stand alongside side them when the going gets tough sometimes means finding the strength to love in the face of fear.“

My Sexuality (Part 4) by Exhibit A

“For all my doubts and misgivings when it comes to how I should use my voice, the fact remains that if someone in my position can’t hold up his hand and say “no, actually, I’m not straight”, is it any surprise that 88% of all the other bi men out there don’t feel comfortable doing so either?”

My Split Attraction Model by Persephone Raya

“Women and nonbinary folks turn me on. I look at them and think how gorgeous and sexy they are. I think about taking them on a date, romancing them, being with them, pleasuring them, fucking them. All the things in all the ways.”

Self-Acceptance Is Fucking Hard by Nikki of Love Is a Fetish

“It’s a standard I’ve applied to myself. An unnecessary “gay enough to belong” standard. I think it boils down to a self esteem thing for me. To realize that yeah, maybe I do deserve to join in the celebration. I’ve struggled with how I’ve been treated as a “not straight” person starting at a young age. I deserve to be here. I’m trying to accept and believe that.”

10 Things I Use For Strap-On Play by Super Smash Cache

“If you’re nervous about pegging or unsure because it’s uncharted territory, that’s okay! Here are some tools and tips for having a fantastic time fucking your partner with a strap-on.”

Bi Erasure and Other Reasons It Took Me 37 Years to Accept My Sexuality by Violet Fawkes

“Perhaps in time, my self definitions will be even more broad and less stuck on the semantics of terms and how it all fits together. It’s a big, sexy, fun world out there, and it’s so much more enjoyable when you can be yourself.”

Am I In or Out? by Zathras

“So here I am, Pride Month 2020, and at the ripe old age of late 40’s I may have realized I’m bisexual! And I’ve no idea what to do about this. All I know is I REALLY want to try sucking a guy now, see if it’s everything I’ve fantasized about for… god, 30+ years. I’ve just no clue how to find said guy.”

My Identity: Am I Queer Enough? by Atosubbee

“It’s taken me getting to my forties for things to become clearer or is that queerer? Looking back at all those things from my childhood, from the clothes I preferred to the films I preferred, there were some pretty big, ok huge, clues to who I am.”

Taking PRIDE in Being the Other by Mxter Promiscuous

“Fast forward a few years and I learn about dysphoria. I immediately reject it because I wouldn’t label the feeling as intense as the definitions that I saw, but it sticks around. I think a bit more about that weird feeling and get scared.”

And finally, don’t miss these really great Pride nudes from the fabulous Jenby!