As a non-binary queer with a beard who constantly gets misgendered all the tme, it’s important to me that if I’m going to have my identity consistently misunderstood and dismissed, then at the very least I want to look and feel queer as fuck. I want to be able to catch a glimpse of myself…
Author: MxNillin
I Need More Of Me: Fat Queer Positivity
Last week was a fucking rough time for body feels. For whatever reason I had slowly gotten it in my head over the past few months that I was fat and hairy and that my partners and lovers couldn’t possibly actually want to have sex with me. It was such an insidious and harmful narrative,…
What Falling in Love For the First Time in Decades Feels Like
As a queer person, discovering the words to describe myself and find community, acceptance, family, and affirming relationships, has been a profoundly revolutionary thing to me. Learning about queer, non-binary, and polyamorous identities has, without a doubt, set me on a path of self-love, pleasure, happiness, and growth, unlike any I’ve ever experienced before. But…
What My Vasectomy Was Like
Huzzah! I did it! Getting my vasectomy has been literally years in the making, and the procedure went off without a hitch! Early last month I did a great deal of self-reflection on my life, focusing specifically on what brings me joy and fulfillment, and I came to one absolute conclusion: I fucking love the…
5 Thing I’ve Learned About Myself That are Essential to My Happiness
Those that know me well know that I’m a deeply self-reflective person who, perhaps a bit obsessively, looks inward a great deal when making any conceivably big life decision, or if I just find myself feeling a lot in general. This was especially the case over the last year as I navigated becoming separated from…




