As 2025 comes to a close I find myself thinking a lot about the friends I’ve met, the community I’ve built, and the growth I’ve experienced over this past year. I’m so thankful for all of these new connections that will carry with me into the new year, and for the deeper understanding in myself…
Category: Let’s Get Personal!
Breaking The Anxious Avoidant Dance
When you’ve had to operate emotionally at a 10 for so long, it’s hard accepting that you’re safe enough to relax and not operate in survival mode. I made a lot of really big mistakes last year while in an activated state that I really regret. Mistakes that almost cost me one of the most…
I Asked Former Partners, Play Friends, and Hookups to Give Me Feedback
If you haven’t checked it out yet, you should go and read the bold and interesting post that Girl on the Net (follow her on Bluesky) put up this week. It was originally posted on a site that she used to write for, but sadly is gone now. Fortunately, many of her pieces survived in…
Ever Changing Pleasures
It still hasn’t fully sunk in yet for me that I’m actually on HRT. This past September I made the trek from Saskatoon to Moose Jaw to finally talk with a doctor about the possibility of taking steps toward some degree for medical transition. I knew that I didn’t want any bottom or top surgery,…
The 38-Year-Old Queer
In the past I’ve only done these posts every five years; first when I turned 30 and then again at 35. In both cases I reflected on difficult feelings about my identity and how bad my mental health always gets around my birthdays. It’s a trauma response for sure. After so many years of disappointment…




