You know, I wasn’t gonna say anything but it’s bugging me, so, fuck it. Not too long ago I learned that one of the biggest criticisms levied about my erotica stories in the anthologies they’ve been published in so far wasn’t so much about the actual content of those stories, but rather about me referring to a trans character’s penis as their girl cock. Now, as many of you will know, I am also a trans person who refers to their penis as their girl cock, and yet some reviewers seem to be under the belief that “real queer women” (not that I identify as one or even explicitly state the narrator’s gender in these stories as such) don’t use the term outside of porn… which of course is a really gross level of term policing and gatekeeping.
It’s just that whole “real queer women” comment… oof. As a non-binary queer author, that really puts me off in a bad way. Cause like, if you want to criticize my story, then sure have at it! Would love to hear that feedback. But focusing in on and dismissing the trans affirming terminology I use for genitals as being “corny and porny” feels kinda “TERFy and SWERFy” to be honest.
Trans dick is revolutionary because we, as the people who have them, are able to define them however we see fit using the terminology that makes us feel best. The fact that some 2SLGBTQ reviewers seem to think it appropriate to minimize and dismiss the terminology that I use for my own genitals, and by extension suggesting that it somehow takes away from the eroticism of my work, honestly just makes me feel further stigmatized and shitty. These are terms I use in the bedroom, in real life, with my partners, lovers, and friends.
I’m a real queer person, and my dick is my fucking girl cock. Many other trans people, including trans and queer women, also call their penis their fucking girl cock. If you don’t like the term, that’s fine, but don’t demean it, minimize it’s importance to others, or knock it’s use in queer and trans affirming erotic literature.
It’s just a shitty and invalidating thing to do.
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I’m sorry you have to defend the words you choose IN YOUR OWN STORIES.
Anyone who took the time to know you, would never even think those thoughts.
Personally IMHO, what you call your genitals and those of the characters you create is your fucking choice! It is your body and your stories so please don’t let the dismissive thoughts of others get you down.
You know your own body and you know how you want to refer to it! Personally, I think it is rather hot because to me it shows how connected you are to your body and your sexuality.
Xx
Thank you! And I agree that it’s really hot when people define their body on their own terms, especially when done in such empowering and affirming ways despite what the rest of society says!
great pic and you can call it anything you want its yours and quite attractive at that so to that i will say lovely girl cock
I have a positive bias toward the LGBTQ community because they’ve shown they’re more open and honest about themselves than the greater of humanity at large. Sad that there is infighting like that. BTW I’m totally jealous of that perky upward curve!
As you said it’s gatekeeping and even if it’s done with the best of intentions, it is a shitty thing to do. I’m trying to hold back a rant because I know you know everything I want to say in that rant so I’m just going to say….uuuuugggghhhhh!
I always appreciate that you totally get it, Bee! “Uuuuugggghhhhh” is right…
Firstly (and a very important point) it is a fucking gorgeous girl cock.
Secondly, I have always found the term pretty hot actually. There is something about a person taking ownership which is hot to me, same as someone calling themselves slut or slutty or anything else really that makes them feel sexy and hot. I know not directly the same but I find that ownership and maybe there is a confidence there too which is hot. It is the same as trans men who call their clit their dick or cock…. it is that claiming of themselves, the self awareness and identity that is sexy. Urgh, words. I am not sure I am explaining that probably but I hope you get what I am trying to say.
Molly
Thank you! That first point is definitely most important!
And I absolutely understand what you’re saying, and really appreciate it. Bodily autonomy and taking ownership of our sexual selves IS sexy and hot. It’s a huge part of what draws me to my partners, lovers, and friends as well xoxo
Yes, exactly this. Having that self awareness but also love for oneself and our perfectly imperfect bodies is so sexy
I love how you always get me thinking and often help me further my own thoughts about myself and desire etc
Molly
Love the image!!
Thank you!