I used to avoid any and all pools and beaches as much as I possibly could because I’ve never felt comfortable with my body, or with any of the bathing suits I ever owned. For some reason I’ve always felt more vulnerable in a bathing suit than I ever have in any lingerie or even…
Tag: gender feels
I’m Not Strong and Here’s Why It’s Transphobic to Assume That I Am
And by me being not strong, I mean physically. When it comes to my emotional intelligence, my perseverance in the face of seeming insurmountable queerphobia, and my ability to face great adversity in my pursuit of bettering myself and my community, I’m a fucking beast, yo. But those aren’t the strengths I’m expected to have….
My Queer Beard and How It’s Helping Me Re-Define My Gender
Look, I’m a fucking hairy queer. Always have been. My chest, legs, arms, belly, butt, all super hairy and for years that caused me a great deal of grief. Why? Unfortunately I had let passing pressure convince me that the only way for me to look, and be accepted, as trans was to constantly shave…
The Aftershocks of Toxic Masculinity
So, I recently blogged about impotence and sexual dysfunction, and while I’m really happy with how the piece turned out overall I did want to explore it on a more personal level than that last write up really allowed for. Because impotence and performance anxiety struggles, for me at least, are really complicated things deeply…
Pitching A Tent
In the past I’ve talked a LOT about how as a non-binary trans person I felt a great deal of pressure early on to “pass” as femme and part of those expectations projected onto me was the assumption that I didn’t like my penis. For a while I bought into that notion and used to…




