One of the single biggest questions that has been on my mind ever since I came to understand myself as queer and genderqueer is: how the hell do I sexy!? Seriously. What IS “sexy” for non-binary and genderqueer folk? Can we even be sexy, or is that only for peeps who identify within the binary?…
Tag: non-binary
Some Feels on Weight Gain, Dysphoria, and Passing Pressure
[CW: one NSFW image and talk of dysphoria, depression, and thoughts of self-harm] After coming out as queer and trans in late 2013, following years of struggling with my identity in secret, I was in the best shape of my adult life. Just over two-years prior I was at 225 lbs, chain smoking, binge eating…
Bathrooms and Being Non-Binary
Here I am on an average Monday. My hair is all messy, pulled back into pigtails, and I have visible stubble on my face because I haven’t shaved for 2-days. I am well aware that I do not “pass”. Even I acknowledge that while I am quite femme in how I dress, I by no…

