At least not in any formal or traditional way. Birthdays are just really fucking hard, y’all! Over the last few years, every single time July swings around I find myself starting to feel more and more anxious, often verging onto panic, and time has continuously shown it to be for good reason. In 2020, we…
Tag: non-monogamy
I’m a Switchy Bitch; What BDSM and Being Kinky Means to Me
So… sex has been a little weird for me lately. Most of that is thanks to stress and trauma, and some lingering insecurity issues, but I’ve also been coming to some pretty big truths about myself in terms of my needs, wants, desires, and boundaries. Namely, in how I wasn’t really centring any of that…
What Falling in Love For the First Time in Decades Feels Like
As a queer person, discovering the words to describe myself and find community, acceptance, family, and affirming relationships, has been a profoundly revolutionary thing to me. Learning about queer, non-binary, and polyamorous identities has, without a doubt, set me on a path of self-love, pleasure, happiness, and growth, unlike any I’ve ever experienced before. But…
What My Vasectomy Was Like
Huzzah! I did it! Getting my vasectomy has been literally years in the making, and the procedure went off without a hitch! Early last month I did a great deal of self-reflection on my life, focusing specifically on what brings me joy and fulfillment, and I came to one absolute conclusion: I fucking love the…
5 Thing I’ve Learned About Myself That are Essential to My Happiness
Those that know me well know that I’m a deeply self-reflective person who, perhaps a bit obsessively, looks inward a great deal when making any conceivably big life decision, or if I just find myself feeling a lot in general. This was especially the case over the last year as I navigated becoming separated from…




