Besties With Benefits

I’m pretty stoked y’all! Despite how challenging the last while has been, and how extra difficult life felt with not being able to see my partners, friends, lovers, and community in the ways that I’d really like to, things have been really starting to come together a bit more as of late. Not only do I now have both of my COVID vaccine shots, one Pfizer and one Moderna, but as a result I’ve been able to get together with other people a little more often. I’m seeing my partner Verne pretty regularly again, have started hooking up with my new fuckmeat, and have even had the opportunity to rekindle connections that have sadly dwindled.

One of those connections that has felt absolutely incredible reestablishing is my intimate friendship with Kate. Some of you may recall that we tried being partners for a while as part of a triad between 2017 to 2019, but it just wasn’t the right fit for us at all. Things ended on a really sad, uncertain note that left me reeling from the loss of platonic affection and sex with Kate. As a result we definitely drifted apart for a bit, even as friends, and due to some personal turmoil I had going on at home during the pandemic that divide just seemed to get bigger and bigger between us. Removing myself from that unhappy home environment turned out to be key, though! It took a lot for me to realize that I had to leave, but once I did I experienced both a huge improvement in my personal wellness and more opportunities to foster the growth of other important connections to me in my life.

Time and change can really heals all wounds, if you’ll let it, and I’m glad that we took that space because now Kate and I can finally  be the besties with benefits and date friends that we have always wanted to be! No pressure on either of us to feel a certain way, or for our bond to be a traditional “romantic relationship” of any kind, or for there to be any sort of uncomfortable commitments or expectations on how things are “supposed” to go at all. We get to hangout whenever we want, watch Netflix and cuddle, have big deep conversations, play games together, dish out gossip, commiserate on life’s bullshit, confide in one another on our thoughts and feelings, go to movies or have some drinks, and sometimes makeout in the shower together then fuck each other’s fucking brains out!

It’s been so fucking good, y’all. Seriously. Definitely in large part because up until now there was a lot keeping us from being able to truly enjoy that bond that we’ve always desired as platonic best friends who love each other non-romantically and are there for each other without any semblance of the relationship traditional relationship escalator in sight. Neither of us want that with each other, or even in general most of the time, and trying to force ourselves into those boxes was frankly catastrophic.

Fact is that Kate and I are both aromantic, and while we enjoy affection and intimacy, the expectations of romance and romantic expressions make us both feel smothered and pressured to feel in ways that aren’t relatable or comfortable to us.

So fuck that!

Besides, we’ve always had the fucking best sex and I’ve missed that shit. Just last Wednesday I visited Kate to help out with some house work then we cuddled, chatted, and eventually had mind blowing sex for a solid hour. I fucking love going down on her, feeling her cum in my mouth as my hands caress her body in the ways I know drive her wild. In return she gave me a fucking amazing blowjob, making me cum in a matter of minutes. She always knows how to get me off as fast or as slow as she wants and I appreciate that about her so damn much.

Driving home I took in a deep breath, smelling her in my beard, relishing in the lingering taste of her pussy on my lips, and feeling so fucking thankful that I have my bestie with benefits back.