Now this is exactly what I’m talking! I asked my partner Fen, aka Dilutedghost, to do a drawover for me of my truesona Malbec because I’ve been really experimenting with how I can explore and express queer masculinity in an affirming way with my body. I am honestly blown away by how perfect it turned…
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WhoreMOANal
My body is sore, I’m tired, irritable, ravenously snackish, grumpy, emotional, defensive, and it feels like everything is conspiring against me. The sensations aren’t entirely new, but they’ve been happening more and more often, almost every month at this point. And each time it feels like my world is unravelling around me. Like all my…
Breaking The Anxious Avoidant Dance
When you’ve had to operate emotionally at a 10 for so long, it’s hard accepting that you’re safe enough to relax and not operate in survival mode. I made a lot of really big mistakes last year while in an activated state that I really regret. Mistakes that almost cost me one of the most…
2024 Foreword INDIES Book of the Year Finalist
I’m thrilled to share that my first book, “How Do I Sexy? A Guide for Trans and Nonbinary Queers,” is a 2024 Foreword INDIES Book of the Year Finalist for LGBTQ+ Adult Nonfiction! I wrote “How Do I Sexy?” between Summer 2022 and Fall 2023. It essentially serves as a physical copy of all my…
I Asked Former Partners, Play Friends, and Hookups to Give Me Feedback
If you haven’t checked it out yet, you should go and read the bold and interesting post that Girl on the Net (follow her on Bluesky) put up this week. It was originally posted on a site that she used to write for, but sadly is gone now. Fortunately, many of her pieces survived in…




