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After 7-Years (and Two Days) of Blogging

Posted on August 1, 2019August 2, 2019 by MxNillin

I’ve been thinking about whether or not to say anything about this for the better part of a week now, but July 30th was my 7-years of blogging anniversary and that’s something to celebrate, right?

This past week also happened to be my 33rd birthday and I don’t know about y’all but I find I get pretty depressed around that time every year, so that’s probably not helping me feel super confident or excited to be sharing this. Thanks to the encouragement of my partners, Fal and Kate, and some of my blogging pals though (y’all know who you are!), I finally got the motivation to at least acknowledge today and also make a call out for more queer enby bloggers with a penis (more on that after).

I kind of like to think that I’m mostly okay at it now lol. I started my first blog, called Derby Frontier, on July 30th, 2012. It was actually all about my experiences with women’s flat track roller derby across Western Canada and highlighted a REALLY transformative period of my life. Through my time as a skating and non-skating official, interacting with the sport and so many badass femmes and diverse folks, I slowly came to understand myself as queer and non-binary. Unfortunately, communities around Saskatchewan really struggle with accepting trans folks in general and many of the more rural leagues didn’t feel very safe or welcoming, so, I finally parted ways with both my site and the sport in 2015.

I am very proud of the resources for inclusivity that I created over there though.

A Nillin from long-ago. Photo by Richard LaFortune.

Within a month of saying those goodbyes I started writing about sex online. At first I created a Tumblr page where I mostly just shared all of the nudes I had taken during my transition. The whole experience of rediscovering what sexy meant for me, all while seeing thousands of other queer, non-binary, and gender nonconforming people doing the same through their own nudes was super empowering.

And then all the shitfucks at Tumblr went and fucking eradicated years of possitve, affirming, empowering trans and gender nonconforming sexual expression with their massive purge of any and all “adult content”. Which was fucking bullshit.

And fuck, this is exactly what I didn’t want to do! I didn’t want to do a big, introspective think piece. If you’d like to read more about how I got the blog to where it is today, check out my post on the ups and downs of sex blogging.

What I really want to do, first, is give thanks.

I’m thankful for the loving and fulfilling relationships that I’ve forged, and for my partners encouraging and supporting me in sharing about us for other polyamorous and non-monogamous folks out there in need of the positive visibility.

I’m thankful for the one-of-a-kind opportunities that I’ve earned, like having my writing showcased in an exhibit at the Tate Modern Museum of London in 2016, and the exciting recognition that I’ve been given through sex blogger lists such as Molly’s Daily Kiss’ Top 100 Sex blogs, which featured me as #18 in 2018.

And I’m thankful for everybody who reads, appreciates, supports, or otherwise interacts with the blog here. I hope, somewhere in all of these pages, you found what you were looking for, or at least glimpsed something that helped even just a little.

Speaking of y’all!

If there is anyone out there reading this who:

  • identifies as queer, trans, non-binary, or gender nonconforming, AND has a penis
  • is sex & sex work positive, body inclusive, and consent guided,

AND

  • is NOT a bigoted fuck, an edgelord, or a boot licker,

…then please consider starting your own sex blog! Hell, toss me a message too and I can give you some tips for getting started.

As much as I have enjoyed my time in the greater sex blogging community it has honestly been overwhelmingly femme, with the vast majority of all content out there coming from cis white women.

Not that cis white women sex bloggers are bad, but as one of the only people with a penis blogging, and definitely one of even fewer enbies with a penis, I’m really feeling like both my readers and I would benefit from more perspectives and experiences. Because this community could really use some radical as fuck diversity!

I don’t want to feel like my blog and its content is a niche of some kind, I want there to be more voices out there challenging norms and expectations, redefining the roles we play in the bedroom, radicalizing sexuality and flooding the sex blogging community with gender fuckery, girl cocks, boy pussies, ass eaters, cum guzzlers, femboys, crossdressers, sissies, traps, and more!

More enbies blogging! More gender nonconformity! More cocks in panties! More crossdressing and non-transphobic sissification and feminization sites! More queer, cum eating enthusiasts and horny furries and passionate erotica writers telling the lewdest goddamn gender fuckery stories they can!

The internet needs 100% more fat, hairy, loud-mouthed, unapologetic, girl cock flailing queers, y’all.

[Aside: this past week the blog hit another exciting milestone: 500,000 views!]

So thank you, all, for joining me and supporting me this far! You’ve all been great and I love interacting with you! If you’ve ever wanted to toss your hat in the ring, I mean it about reaching out, we could really use you in the blogosphere!

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  • 8 thoughts on “After 7-Years (and Two Days) of Blogging”

    1. violet says:
      August 7, 2019 at 9:30 am

      What a journey and what awesome accomplishments! Congrats!

      Reply
      1. MxNillin says:
        August 9, 2019 at 4:57 pm

        Thank you so much, Violet!

        Reply
    2. Sara Testarossa says:
      August 6, 2019 at 1:09 am

      Thank you for 7 years of blogging so far (though I’ve only been following the last few), and congrats on the milestones!! I adore your writing and your perspective. I hope people answer the call you put out, because as awesome as you and your blog are, yes, we could certainly benefit from reading from more enbies with penises! And more radical as fuck diversity, yes, indeed! *Cheers*

      Also, happy belated birthday, and wishing you all the best with your new year of life!

      Reply
      1. MxNillin says:
        August 9, 2019 at 5:11 pm

        Thank you! And totally agreed. It’s weird but a big reason for me as a writer to want to see more enbies with penises out there with blogs is that I need those affirmations too. I need to see others like me sharing similar feelings and sentiments, being hot and awesome, struggling with similar adversity and ignorance but overcoming it nonetheless to find themselves stronger than ever on the other side.

        I don’t see that reflected back at me really. I just want to be learning and growing from the experiences and perspectives of other enbies too! I want to be able to not feel like literally the ONLY blog like this out there because that feels lonely and exhausting and alienating at times.

        Le sigh. Hopefully we see more peeps in the future!

        Reply
    3. Optical Love Story says:
      August 3, 2019 at 6:08 am

      Congrats on 7 years on blogging! That is a huge accomplishment for sure, and happy belated birthday! It is amazing to see how your content has grown with you over the years 🙂

      Reply
      1. MxNillin says:
        August 4, 2019 at 3:41 pm

        Thank you, friend! Looking back and seeing that growth was pretty cool. It was especially interesting reading some of the stuff on the derby blog cause I haven’t even glanced at it in YEARS haha.

        Reply
    4. JOHN DEAN says:
      August 2, 2019 at 10:34 am

      LOVED YOUR BLOG AND PICTURES!! I HAVE JUST FOUND THAT I AM BI-SEXUAL AND NOW REALLY ENJOY ANOTHER MANS COCK IN MY ASS!!! WHAT ATHRILL TO HOLD ANOTHER MANS HARD COCK IN MY HANDS!!–WOW!!!
      JOHN XXX

      Reply
      1. MxNillin says:
        August 4, 2019 at 3:40 pm

        Thanks so much! I’m glad you enjoy the blog and pics. And congratulations on your coming out! I hope you have a lot of fun exploring yourself, your needs, and your desires with this newfound confidence.

        Reply

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