Those that know me well know that I’m a deeply self-reflective person who, perhaps a bit obsessively, looks inward a great deal when making any conceivably big life decision, or if I just find myself feeling a lot in general. This was especially the case over the last year as I navigated becoming separated from…
Category: Let’s Get Personal!
Writing Out Loud: I’m Separated
I’ve put off talking about my separation for a lot of reasons I think. I mean, it just fucking sucks, right? A relationship ending, especially a long-term one, isn’t a great experience at the best of times but throw in the fact that there were also massive boundary breaches along the way, a tremendous breakdown…
My First Night on Grindr As an Enby
Okay, so, first things first: going on hookup apps as a nonbinary person fucking sucks. It just does, okay? If you’re not getting creepily fetishized and love bombed by randos then you’re getting misgendered and told you’re not real, a joke, confused, or “just wanting attention”, etc. It’s kinda a huge fucking buzzkill. Yet, I…
From My Partner’s Perspective
It’s a weird state to be in when you’re both simultaneous fucking rocking it, and yet also struggling with so much imposter syndrome, self-doubt, and bad body feels that it’s keeping you from fully enjoying the potential of your life. Cause that’s exactly where I’m at right now. On one hand, there’s so, so much…
The 35-Year-Old Queer
Hi! I turned 35 a couple of days ago on Wednesday! For some, that’s a big cause for celebration but unfortunately I always get really, really fucking sad on my birthdays for some reason. Not 100% sure why but it’s a consistent enough thing for me that I often also see a pretty big drop…




