Welcome to Day 7 of February Photofest 2020 on mxnillin.com! Centering queer lewdness and hardcore genderfuckery. Read 2019’s Day 7 post here: “What Even Is ‘Sexy’?” Showers are my safe space. Definitely my go to for self-care, which is weird because I don’t often do a lot of grooming or washing in them per say….
Category: Let’s Get Personal!
Setting New Relationship Non-Negotiables After a Breakup
It has been quite a damn while since I’ve had to go through the depression and emotional work of a breakup, let alone set any new boundaries or relationship non-negotiables as part of moving on. Over six years in fact! This recent relationship that ended was my second longest overall, was technically my first ever…
My Bucket and Fucket Lists for the 2020s
As a very introspective and self-reflective person I tend to spend a lot of time musing on my relationships and friendships, as well as the needs, wants, boundaries, desires, and expectations that frame them. So, when I saw Molly Moore‘s recent post “Bucket, Fuck and Christmas Lists” It actually reminded me of how I used…
My First Hookup Fuck-up
Everyone’s got at least one bad hook-up story. Even I do! Kinda sucks though that mine happened to be one of the first times that I ever hooked up with somebody else. Let’s set the scene: it’s the summer of 2002, people haven’t figure out that Men In Black II sucks yet, The Sims is…
Moving On When You Can’t Stop Holding On
I’m grieving, friends. And that’s a good thing because if I’m being honest here I haven’t really allowed myself to do that these past few weeks since Kate ended the polyamorous triad. I think that part of the difficulty is that we’re not treating it as a traditional breakup so much as a transition from…




