At least not in any formal or traditional way. Birthdays are just really fucking hard, y’all! Over the last few years, every single time July swings around I find myself starting to feel more and more anxious, often verging onto panic, and time has continuously shown it to be for good reason. In 2020, we…
Tag: polyamory
I’m a Switchy Bitch; What BDSM and Being Kinky Means to Me
So… sex has been a little weird for me lately. Most of that is thanks to stress and trauma, and some lingering insecurity issues, but I’ve also been coming to some pretty big truths about myself in terms of my needs, wants, desires, and boundaries. Namely, in how I wasn’t really centring any of that…
Bouncing Back
It’s hard enough going through a succession of back to back breakups, but doing so while also in the midst of a brutal emotional low following months of being made to feel inadequate, insecure, like a failure, shamed about your other relationships, and generally bad about yourself in every conceivable way, is extra fucking rough….
What Falling in Love For the First Time in Decades Feels Like
As a queer person, discovering the words to describe myself and find community, acceptance, family, and affirming relationships, has been a profoundly revolutionary thing to me. Learning about queer, non-binary, and polyamorous identities has, without a doubt, set me on a path of self-love, pleasure, happiness, and growth, unlike any I’ve ever experienced before. But…
What My Vasectomy Was Like
Huzzah! I did it! Getting my vasectomy has been literally years in the making, and the procedure went off without a hitch! Early last month I did a great deal of self-reflection on my life, focusing specifically on what brings me joy and fulfillment, and I came to one absolute conclusion: I fucking love the…




