You might think that because I talk a lot about sex here, and horny post on the regular, that I must not do it a lot with my friends or on my personal social media… but you’d be wrong! Truth is that sex, pleasure, masturbation, flirting, sexting, and playing with sex toys, are as much a hobby, passion, and special interest of mine as any of the other nerdy things I love are.
You see, it’s just not that I’m just horny, though yes I often am, but it’s moreso that sexual pleasure is legitimately one of my favourite things. It’s right up there with Pokemon, video games, and Marvel movies. As an autistic queer with ADHD and a tendency to hyper-fixate there’s a lot more to sex than it just being something that I do for fun, or, as an intimate activity in my relationships. Running a sex blog, talking about sex related stuff, enjoying pornography, reading adult comics, masturbating, and nude trading with pals, are honestly all integral to much of my interpersonal socialization and a core part of my quality downtime.
You can see examples of this all over my blog in the sex toy and adult game reviews I post, the discussion and exploration of kinks I write about, the erotic photography events I participate in, and all the times I excitedly share about something I find particularly hot and arousing. I do this because I love it, and because it fuels my creativity, passion, and a whole range of other interests including reading, writing, and art.
I know for some that these topics may be super uncomfortable, or “inappropriate”, which is completely understandable and a valid boundary, however, that’s why I’m not close friends with those folks. They’re not my people and if they really don’t like my posting habits or conversation topics then they’re welcome to unfriend and disconnect with no hard feelings whatsoever. But I’m long past having any patience for censoring myself and if somebody can’t handle my interests and conversation topics then I encourage them to unfriend and I don’t particularly invest in communicating with them a great deal.
It’s not like it’s any of this is a secret either. When most people send me a friend request I try to make a habit out of messaging them to give them a heads up about all of this as well. That way they can opt out of seeing my blog post links, lingerie pics, and the countless lewd memes I’m sharing throughout the day if those things things would be uncomfortable to them. Those that stick around and interact are always immensely appreciated, but I never have an expectation for it. Generally speaking though, the space that I cultivate on my social media is very explicit in sex, pleasure, and body positivity.
As a result, I overall connect best with others through some degree of physical, sexual, and vulnerable intimacy. Not that I want to do it with every single person on my friends list… well, okay maybe a little but what I mean though is that I don’t even need to actually be having sex with an individual in order to achieve those open minded, and intimate friendships I really value. People who are in my closest friends circle tend to be trans queer folks who I enjoy hanging out with watching a movie, or playing games with, while also being able to flirt with, talk candidly about sex with, and yeah, sometimes make-out, cuddle, masturbate together, or even fuck.
So, if you’re looking to have a conversation with me just know that most standard small talk is real hard for me and I’m probably looking for a way to politely duck out of it ASAP. However, if you want to have a real chat with Mx. Nillin then be direct, super queer, playful and/or flirty, and prepared to switch between horny and nerdy at breakneck speeds.
