Thank you for attending “How Do I Sexy?: A Sexuality Affirming Workshop for Queer, Trans, and Enby Folks“, hosted by OUTSaskatoon and Gender Revolution as part of YXE Trans Visibility Week 2018. Here you will find all of the articles and resources we discussed together, separated by topic:
Self-Care & Queer Body Positivity
Below is a number of links to resources right here on the blog, as well as pieces from other queer and trans bloggers writing about their relationships with their body.
- How Learning About Queer Sex Taught Me Self-Love (by Mx Nillin)
- How Do I Sexy? A Guide for Non-Binary Folks (by Mx Nillin)
- 7 Queer Names for Trans and Non-Binary Folks to Call Their Penis (by Mx Nillin)
- How I Learned to Let Go of the Hate and Love My Hairy Tits (by Mx Nillin)
- Some Feels on Weight Gain, Dysphoria, and Passing Pressure (by Mx Nillin)
- A Case for Traps, Sissies, Femboys and Crossdressers (by Mx Nillin)
- What the Heck IS Gender Affirming Anyway? (by Taylor J. Mace)
- How Fatphobia Impacted My Gender Identity (by J. of ComfyFat)
- Changing What You Love: On Considering Hormones When You’re Non-Binary (by Bex Caputo)
- Femmes, Fear, and Gender: What Exploring My Gender Taught Me About My Sexuality (by Bex Caputo)
Shibari & Rope Bondage
Below you will find some general information on Shibari and rope bondage, as well as tie guides, safety tips, and shops to purchase rope.
- Fetish Weekly – Shibari Tie Guides & Safety
- Rope Bondage: My Introduction (by Taylor J. Mace)
- The Art of Contemporary Shibari
- Strap-On Rope Harness Tutorial (by Artemisia FemmeCock)
- Twisted Monk
- Ropes by EDK
- Agreeable Agony
Pet Play Gear & Resources
The following links will bring you to reputable pet play gear sellers, as well as some 101 introductory guides.
- BDSM History: Kitten Play
- BDSM History: Puppyplay
- Tavaron’s Leather
- Kitten’s Playpen
- The Kitten Collection
- Pocket Foxy
- Pawstar
- Mr-S-Leather’s Puppy Park
Ethical Toys
These are all the adult shops that I strongly recommend, as well as some information articles on how to find other stores that are most likely to sell quality, body safe products.
- 5 Ways To Know You’re Buying from an Ethical Sex Toy Shop (by Kate Sloan)
- Hey Epiphora
- Smitten Kitten
- The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health Store
- She Vibe
- Come as You Are Cooperative
Trans & Queer Positive Porn
Simply put: watching porn ethically means not watching it on tube sites. Literally every single major tube site out there (PornHub, XNXX, RedTube, etc.) consists of videos that are often uploaded WITHOUT the consent of the performers and creators. As such, sex workers lose a LOT of money, and struggle to make a living, the more that people watch their stolen content on tube site. Especially queer and trans performers.
That being said, I also understand that we don’t all have a lot of disposable income for buying porn, which is totally understandable. In that case, I highly recommend checking out Tumblr. There are a lot of queer folks who run personal sex blogs and upload their own free, original material.
- Why Trans Representation in Porn Matters (by Mx Nillin)
- I Am a Porn Star Asking the Porn Industry to Stop Using the Term “Shemale” (by Chelsea Poe)
- Crash Pad Series
- Pink Label TV
- Chelsea Poe
- Feisty Fox Films
- Gal Pal Films
- ManyVids – Trans Stars
- TransQueerSxxx [FREE, requires a Tumblr account]
- Gone Wild Trans Reddit [FREE amateur trans content]
- LGBT Gone Wild Reddit [FREE amateur queer content]
Other Articles and Resources You May Find Useful
- Panty Shopping Tips for People With a Penis Who Don’t Tuck (by Mx Nillin)
- Survival Guide to Shopping for Femme Clothes When You’re Read as Masculine (by Mx Nillin)
- Just the Tips on Frenulum Stimulation for People With a Penis (by Mx Nillin)
- 5 Queer and Trans Inclusive Sex Acts to Enjoy During a Threesome (by Mx Nillin)