So… sex has been a little weird for me lately. Most of that is thanks to stress and trauma, and some lingering insecurity issues, but I’ve also been coming to some pretty big truths about myself in terms of my needs, wants, desires, and boundaries. Namely, in how I wasn’t really centring any of that…
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How Dysphoria Feels to Me as a Nonbinary Queer
It’s weird feeling like something isn’t quite right about your body, yet having absolutely no idea of how to quantify or qualify that because there’s no comparison to go off of. Generally, it just feels real fucking bad. That’s what dysphoria is like for me. It’s both uncertain, and yet also all encompassing at the…
More an Enboy Than an Enby
“Enboy, also known as guyby and menby, is a term for someone who is a non-binary man. It can be used by anyone who identifies as both a man and as non-binary. It can include multigender people with a non-binary gender and man, gendervast people, people who are genderfluid or genderflux between non-binary and male,…
A Queer With a Beard
As a non-binary queer with a beard who constantly gets misgendered all the tme, it’s important to me that if I’m going to have my identity consistently misunderstood and dismissed, then at the very least I want to look and feel queer as fuck. I want to be able to catch a glimpse of myself…
What Falling in Love For the First Time in Decades Feels Like
As a queer person, discovering the words to describe myself and find community, acceptance, family, and affirming relationships, has been a profoundly revolutionary thing to me. Learning about queer, non-binary, and polyamorous identities has, without a doubt, set me on a path of self-love, pleasure, happiness, and growth, unlike any I’ve ever experienced before. But…




